- friendship 2
You must act in your friend's
whether it pleases
your friend or not; the object of
to serve, not to win.
word, a smile, and the stranger at your elbow may become
interesting friend. All through life we deny ourselves
fellowship because we are too proud
or too afraid to unbend.
friends see who we really are, hear our words and the feelings
them, hold us in the safe harbor of their embrace, and accept us
as we are.
Good friends mirror our best back to us, forgive us our worst,
we will evolve into wise, wacky, and wonderful old people.
give us their undivided attention, encourage us to laugh, and
entice us into
silliness. And we do the same for them. A true friend gives us the
to be ourselves
because he or she is with us always and in all ways.
In the safety of such friendships, our hearts can fully open.
No friendship can
cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever.
is easy enough to be friendly to one's friends. But to
those who regard themselves as your enemies is
the quintessence of all religion. The other is merely
people are happier on this earth than those who have friends with whom they
can talk, with whom they can live, with whom they can have a friendly chat.
Befriending the life in others is sometimes a
complex matter. There
are times when
we offer our strength and protection,
are usually only temporary measures.
blessing we offer others may be the belief
we have in their
for freedom, the courage to support
them as they determine
for themselves the
strength that will
become their refuge and the foundation for
their lives. I
it is especially important to believe in someone at a
they cannot yet believe in themselves. Then your belief will become their lifeline.
Rachel Naomi Remen
you make friends with people who are without
your own character will tarnish as well.
Friendship inspires and enriches the
of those who come together.
Friendship is so much more than a word, a
handshake, and a smile.
It's the ability to see the inner beauty in someone.
Vonda K. Van Dyke
It is not
what you give your friends, but what you are willing
to give them, that determines the quality of your friendship.
are those fruits gathered from trees planted
in the rich soil of love, and nurtured with tender
care and understanding. These trees are
never subjected to drought.
friends one has the privilege of saying nothing; the civility
consists in the assumption that one's silence will be civilly
I can imagine a small gathering of friends who say nothing all
they recoil from saying anything that the others don't want to
and their silence would be the subtlest courtesy.
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The glory of
friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the
nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual
inspiration that comes to
us when we discover that someone
else believes in us and is willing to trust us.
that flows from
the heart cannot be
by adversity, as the water
from the spring
cannot congeal in winter.
friendships for granted is one of
surest ways of ending
them. Unless nourished, they tend to wither and die.
earnestly desire its continuance
we should never start
a friendship any
more than we would a love affair.
your friends as you do your pictures,
and place them in their best light.
|The first step in the art of friendship
is to be a friend, then making friends takes care of
itself. To be a friend we should start by being
friends to ourselves, by being true to our highest and
best and by aligning ourselves with the enduring values
of human life that make for growth and progress.
To be a friend we should strive to be "like the
shadow of a great rock in a weary land," to be a
source of refuge and strength to those who walk in
To be a friend we should believe in the inherent
goodness of people and in their potential greatness; we
should treat people in a big spirit, expectant of a
To be a friend we should strive to lift people up,
not cast them down; to encourage, not discourage; to set
an example that will be an inspiration to others.
To be a friend we should be sensitively responsive to
the dreams and aims of others and should show sincere
appreciation for the contributions others make to the
enrichment of our lives.
To be a friend we should practice the companionship
of silence and the magic of words that our speech may
build and not destroy, help and not hinder.
To be a friend we should close our eyes to the faults
of others and open them to our own.
To be a friend we should not attempt to reform or
reprimand, but should strive only to make others happy
if we can.
To be a friend we should be ourselves; we should be
done with hypocrisy, artificiality and pretense, we
should meet and mingle with people in quiet simplicity
To be a friend we should be tolerant, we should have
an understanding heart and a forgiving nature, knowing
that all people stumble now and then, and that those who
never made a mistake never accomplished anything.
To be a friend we should join hands with all people
who are working for great principles, great purposes and
great causes; we should put our shoulders to the wheel
to help achieve common goals.
To be a friend we should go more than halfway with
our fellow people; we should greet others first and not
wait to be greeted; we should radiate a spirit of
overflowing good will.
To be a friend we should remember that we are human
magnets; that like attracts like, and that what we give
To be a friend we should recognize that no person
knows all the answers, and that we should add each day
to our knowledge of how to live the friendly way.
The real test
of friendship is: Can you literally do nothing with the
Can you enjoy together those moments of life that are utterly
simple? They are the
moments people look back on at the end of life and number as
their most sacred experiences.
friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born
until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new
world is born.
Your friends will know you better in the first
minute you meet
than your acquaintances will know you in a thousand years.
This was no friendship, to
forsake your friend,
To promise your support and at the end
Abandon him--this was sheer treachery.
Friend follows friend to hell and blasphemy--
When sorrow comes one's true friends are found;
In times of joy ten thousand gather round.
Farid ud-Din Attar
I had to choose between betraying my country and betraying my
I hope I should have the guts to betray my country.
friend in a life is much, two are many, three are hardly
Henry Brooks Adams
true friend is the most precious of all possessions and
the one we take the least thought about acquiring.
happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in the
worth and choice.
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Ella Wheeler Wilcox
All love that has not friendship for its base
Is like a mansion built upon the sand.
Though brave its walls as any in the land,
And its tall turrets lift their heads in grace;
Though skilful and accomplished artists trace
Most beautiful designs on every hand,
And gleaming statues in dim niches stand,
And fountains play in some flow'r-hidden place:
Yet, when from the frowning east a sudden gust
Of adverse fate is blown, or sad rains fall,
Day in, day out, against its yielding wall,
Lo! the fair structure crumbles to the dust.
Love, to endure life's sorrow and earth's woe,
Needs friendship's solid mason-work below.
One's friends are
that part of the human race with
which one can be human.
Perhaps the greatest rudenesses of our time come
of strangers, but from the
intimates who believe that their
criticisms are always
welcome, and who feel free to “be
they love, which turns out to mean
being their worst selves,
while saving their best behavior for
Friendship is a measure of our ability to love
and be loved. Our desire
is to feel close and share our life with at least a few others.
Yet some people confuse the number of people they see with
People build closeness by giving friendship priority, by being
showing their feelings. I like to call it being
transparent. They communicate
warmth, touch, talk about their affection, give each other
space, allow change,
limit expectations, listen, and offer loyalty and trust.
They avoid trying to control or manipulate their friends.
criticize and they don't become dependent.
It takes practice to be a good friend, and we all make
like love, is something you do, something you give that comes
back to you.
Success Is the Quality of Your Journey
True friendship reveals
itself in time--not only in the sense of time
spent together getting to know one another, but also in the
that it is through the ravages as well as the easier times in
we come to see, as they say, "who our friends are."
Loyalty to friends is easy when nothing rotten is
in the air. But
when rumors are flying, or innuendos, or betrayals--that is when
the quality of true friendship becomes the stuff of heroic
To give a friend the benefit of the doubt, to listen with depth
compassion and nonjudgment to his or her story, to remain an
approving friend even when you do not agree with a particular
position, to be truly loyal in an age where loyalty is so easily
relinquished--these are opportunities to use friendship as a
of righteous participation in life.