may understand the cosmos,
the ego; the self is
more distant than any star.
do we consistently refuse to allow love to light our way? We
the allure of love, while still longing for its comfort. And
what is that
resistance, really? First, it is resistance to the
experience of a bigger life,
in which our small and separate identity disappears. What is
birth of our spiritual identity feels to the ego like death.
The ego, our small
and separate sense of self, is an imposter personality. It
is a false self. It resists our genuinely remembering God, because in the
our oneness with him lies the death of the ego and the end of all
The ego is that ugly little troll that lives
underneath the bridge
between your mind and your heart.
One of the
ego's favorite paths of resistance is to fill you with doubt.
ego is not a thing but a subtle effort, and you cannot
effort to get rid of effort--you end up with two efforts instead
of one. The ego itself is a perfect manifestation of the
and it is best handled by resting in Freedom, not by trying
to get rid of it, which simply increases the effort of the ego
those who have overcome their egos; happy are those who
have attained peace; happy are those who have found the Truth.
The ego is the single
biggest obstruction to the achievement of anything.
is the act of acting without ego. You act, but you are not the
actor. You do things, but you are not the doer--and you know you are not
the doer. It's the ability to hold the head at a dead standstill in order to
certain changes. You desire the change, but you do not care if it comes to pass.
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you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego
and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the
to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge.
Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time.
important to be aware of them every time they come up.
I measure what's going on,
and I adapt to it. I try to get
out of the way. The market is smarter than I am so I
main point of any spiritual practice is to step out of
the bureaucracy of ego. This means stepping out of ego's
constant desire for a higher, more spiritual, more transcendental
version of knowledge, religion, virtue, judgment, comfort,
or whatever it is that the particular ego is seeking. One
step out of spiritual materialism.
The ego, as a collection of our past experiences,
offering miserable lines of thought.
It’s as if there were a stream
with little fish swimming
by, and when we hook one of them
is a judgment.
The ego is constantly judging everybody
It has its constant little chit chat about things
happen in the future, things about the past, too, and
little fish that swim by.
And what we learn to
do—this is why it takes
not reach out and grab a fish.
be defined as whatever covers up basic goodness. From an
experiential point of view, what is ego covering up? It's
our experience of just being here, just fully being where we are,
so that we can relate with the immediacy of our experience.
is a state of mind that has complete confidence in the sacredness
of the world. It is unconditional well being, unconditional
that includes all the different qualities of our experience.
having your ego so close to your position that
when your position falls, your ego goes with it.
more you prune a plant, the more it grows. So too the more
seek to annihilate the ego, the more it will increase. You
should seek the root of the ego and destroy it.
true gentility mellows the ego, not by weakening its strength but
diminishing its arrogance, its false exclusiveness, its pretense
Adrian van Kaan
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ego will always be able to find ways to keep the aspirant
busy in self-improvement, thus binding him or her to the
fact that the self is still there behind all the improvements.
For why should the ego kill itself?
must be remembered that even though the ego is the
concept of him- or herself, it
seems to be what the person is.
The ego is primarily
engaged in its own defense and the furtherance of
its own ambitions. Everything that interferes with it must
ego can achieve simple pleasures: momentary satisfaction
with its achievements,
happiness with its new car, for instance. But it cannot
itself create any of the higher
feelings. Take love, for example: the only love the
ego knows is strategic, a manipulative
transaction in which it gives to get. It gives kindness to
be liked, praise to be praised,
approval to be approved of, and love to be loved. This
conditional love is shallow at
best and usually turns into hurt or even hate when the transaction
doesn't go as planned.
Similarly, the ego is not the source of compassion,
joy, or forgiveness, either. When
these feelings come, all the ego can do is identify with them and
start down the path of
unworthiness or imagine that it has reached new spiritual
heights. The ego is at most a
voyeur when there is a positive feeling and at worst an
impostor. Ultimately, the ego's
inability to maintain any kind of positive feeling state results
in a kind of low-level or
background state of dissatisfaction that is the very note of the
ego porous. Will is of little importance, complaining is
fame is nothing. Openness, patience, receptivity, solitude
Rainer Maria Rilke
To feel life is meaningless unless "I"
can be permanent
is like having desperately fallen in love with an inch.
Ego, however, is not who you really are. The ego is your
self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are
Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it
is sustained by power, because it lives in fear.
foundation of the Buddha's teachings lies in compassion,
and the reason for practicing the teachings is to wipe out
the persistence of ego, the number-one enemy of compassion.
ego lusts for satisfaction. It has a prideful ferocious
for its version of "truth." It is the most
to conquer; the cause for most spiritual turmoil.
From Within I Rise
ego promotes turmoil because it wants to substantiate your
separateness from everyone, including God. It will
push you in
the direction of judgment and comparison, and
cause you to insist
on being right and best. You
know your highest self by listening
to the voice that only
wants you to be at peace.
Manifest Your Destiny
speaks from a small standpoint in the center. It thinks
seeks to know by groping in the unknown, attempting to rationalize
finds there. Since infinite space surrounds it, it is
for it to ever grow into great understanding.
ego is really our weakness, the way our disbelief in ourselves
shows in life. When we give up fighting for it and determine
it, we are on our way toward being ourselves and mature
ego endlessly pulls us from one burning desire to another.
the ego wishes to impose its will on events, to pretend that its
plans are the most important, that it knows all, and knows what is
best for us.
unhappiness is due to the ego. With it comes all your
trouble. If you
would deny the ego and scorch it by ignoring it you would be free.
The ego is a
self-satisfying historian which seeks only that
information that agrees with it, rewrites history when it needs
and does not even see the evidence that threatens it.
Anthony G. Greenwald
some point, sometimes in our twenties, sometimes our thirties,
often the forties. . . we begin at last to let the soul
lead. The power shifts
away from bric-a-brac and
frick-frack to soulfulness. And though the
soul does not assume the lead by killing off the ego, the ego is
one might say, and given a different assignment in the psyche,
which is essentially to submit to the concerns of the soul.
Clarissa Pinkola Estés
of the ego is to stay in control, and so it does all it can
to keep us in the realm of me-ness. It is a remarkably
good shape-shifter and can take any number of disguises or
appear in many varied forms, but its main job is to keep us
distracted. For instance, it can make us believe we
are the cleverest, the best informed and most important, as
easily as it can make us feel unworthy, unlovable, not
clever or good enough to be happy. And it is this
sense of self that is the root cause of so much distress,
both in our own lives and in the world, as in its name wars
are fought, families split, and friends forgotten.
and selfishness, which are hallmarks of the ego, affect not
only our own lives and relationships but also influence the
way we behave in the world. There is no limit to the
damage a strong ego can do, from the arrogant conviction
that its own opinions are the only right ones and everyone
should be made to believe in them, to wielding and abusing
power at the expense of other people's lives or liberties.
also makes us believe that we are the dust on the mirror,
that we could never be so beautiful as the radiant
reflection beneath the surface. Yet how extraordinary
to believe that we cannot be free when freedom is our true
nature! When we begin to see that such
self-centeredness does not lead to happiness and we year for
something more genuine, when we realize that the pit of
meaninglessness and emptiness inside is never really
satiated no matter how much we feed it, or when we have just
had enough of chaos and suffering, then the longing for
all we need to do is to let go of the focus on
"me," which is our sense of separateness, our need
for distinction, the grasping and clinging to our
story. Then we can retire the ego. But this is
far easier said than done. In India, the ego is
represented by a coconut as this is the hardest nut to
crack. Traditionally, the coconut is offered to the
guru or teacher as a sign of the student's willingness to
surrender his or her ego and to let go of
self-obsession. Such a symbolic gesture shows that the
ego is considered to be a great obstacle on the spiritual
path and an even greater impediment to developing true
kindness and compassion.
Ed and Deb Shapiro
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