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all have hopes and dreams. We all go through times in our lives when
we come up with ideas of things that we would like to accomplish in
life, places we would like to be in the years ahead. It's a natural
human tendency, it seems, to come up with an ideal that we would
like to fulfill in our futures.
happens when the years go by and those dreams never come to
fruition? What happens when we find ourselves, years later, in a
situation that's so far removed from our ideal that we can only
think that we've somehow failed, that we haven't accomplished our
life's desire? It can be a very devastating experience. A friend
wrote me the following lines:
at 40 I'm losing hope that this dream will ever come true, and
sometimes I would get upset at God for not helping me to make this
happen. So this has been a great impediment in my living a full
life. Sometimes I'm unable to be happy in the moment because of
these unfulfilled dreams. It's those 'why couldn't it have
been?', 'why didn't it happen for me?' times that rob
me of my joy for today. And as much as I know and have read that
real peace is internal, I also know for me, that the environment
where I spend my time makes a difference."
I try to
focus on the fact that I trust God to put me where I'm most
effective, where I can do the most good, and where I can learn the
Getting through the hard times has been much more beneficial
to me in the long run than having an idyllic life would have been.
I've learned more about what I truly want out of life through the
painful experiences in places I didn't necessarily want to be than I
have in times when everything's been fine.
that the bottom line is that all of our dreams are available to us
if we're willing to take risks and make sacrifices. Can't afford
that summer vacation that you dream of? Where can you make
sacrifices? Going out less? Renting fewer movies? Ordering fewer
pizzas? Do you wish you lived somewhere else? Find out what it would
take to move there, and go. The most important thing to consider,
though, is your current situation and where you see yourself going
if you stay in it. If you see yourself developing very little in or
getting very little from your current situation, maybe it's time you
examined those dreams of yours to see where they may be directing
you. We've been given dreams for a reason, and much of that reason
is to give us something to strive for.
heart guide you--if it tells you to stay, that's where you're
supposed to be, and make the most of it. If it tells you to go, then
take the risk and make the most of that. If faith in God is part of
your life, ask Him for guidance, then listen for the answer; and
whatever that answer may be, follow it, for you will be taken care
Someone once said to me, "Reverend Schuller,
I hope you live
to see all your dreams fulfilled." I replied, "I
hope not, because
if I live and all my dreams are fulfilled, I'm dead."
It is unfulfilled dreams that keep you alive.
|The tragedy of
life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies
in having no goal to reach. It
isn’t a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled,
but it is a calamity not to dream. . . . It is not a disgrace not
to reach the stars,
but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach for. Not failure, but
low aim is sin.
many of us in life start out building temples: temples of character,
of justice, temples of peace. And so often we don’t finish them.
Because life is
like Schubert’s "Unfinished Symphony." At so many points
we start, we try,
we set out to build our various temples. And I guess one of the
of life is that we are constantly trying to finish that which is
We are commanded to do that. And so we, like David, find ourselves
many instances having to face the fact that our dreams are not
fulfilled. . . .
let us notice first that life is a continual story of shattered
Luther King, Jr.
dreamed many dreams that never came true.
I've seen them vanish at dawn.
But I've realized enough of my dreams, thank the Lord,
To make me want to dream on.
I've prayed many prayers when no answer came,
Though I've waited patient and long,
But answers have come to enough of my prayers
To make me keep praying on.
from "I've Dreamed Many Dreams"
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|Cemeteries are full of
unfulfilled dreams. . . countless echoes of "could
have" and "should have". . . countless books unwritten. . .
unsung. . . I want to live my life in such a way that when my body
to rest, it will be a well needed rest from a life well lived, a
song well sung,
a book well written, opportunities well explored, and a love well
The longer you
wait, the louder and more vicious your unfulfilled
dreams will become. They eat away at your mind, your soul, and
your heart. They stalk you and are there at every turn in life
you “what if?” and force you to ponder about what could have
been, what you should have done, and what you could do
if you could go back in time.
Your unfulfilled dreams won’t be unforgiving, not even when
you’re on your death bed. They’re not giving up on you for
giving up on them. They’re getting their revenge.
To prevent yourself from becoming haunted by your unfulfilled
dreams, you already know what to do. Turn dreams into goals.
Don’t wait. Don’t contrive excuses for yourself. Use the words
of naysayers against them to prove them wrong. Work hard.
And don’t setting for anything less than your best.
happens to a dream deferred?
it dry up
like a raisin in the sun?
Or fester like a sore--
And then run?
Does it stink like rotten meat?
Or crust and sugar over--
like a syrupy sweet?
it just sags
like a heavy load.
does it explode?
|Unfulfilled dreams only become unnecessary regrets.
dare to dream greatly; I dare to fail greatly. I dare to tolerate
ashes of my unfulfilled dreams, for I may dream again. I dare
tolerate the ashes of my unfulfilled life, for I may never live