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Compromise makes a good
umbrella, but a poor
roof.
James Russell Lowell |
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A note:
There is the type of compromise that allows us to accept other
people's thoughts
and ideas, and not put our own ideas higher than theirs, and
there's the kind of compromise
that lessens us as people when we do things that we know are
wrong, simply for the sake
of expediency or personal gain. We present quotations
addressing both sorts here.
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The
middle path makes me wary. . . . But in the middle of my life,
I am coming to see the middle path as a walk with wisdom where
conversations of complexity can be found, that the middle path
is
the path of movement. . . . In the right and left worlds, the
stories
are largely set. . . . We become missionaries for a position . .
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practitioners of the missionary position. Variety is lost.
Diversity is
lost. Creativity is lost in our inability to make love with the
world.
Terry Tempest Williams
Leap
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All
government, indeed every human benefit and enjoyment, every
virtue,
and every prudent act, is founded on compromise and barter.
Edmund Burke
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Compromise- better bend than break.
Scottish Proverb
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In what we call "real
life"--if you want to be successful, if you want to
get on in the longterm--you always have to come to some kind of
compromise with your own emotions: I can't overreact NOW! I have to
accept THIS! I have to ignore THAT!--You're forever having to tailor your
emotions to the circumstances, you go easy on the people you love, you
slip into your hundred little daily roles, you juggle, you balance, you
weigh things up so as not to jeopardize the entire structure, because
you yourself have a stake in it.
Daniel Glattauer
Gut gegen Nordwind
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In
a nourishing relationship,
compromise is a foregone conclusion.
Jerry
Greenwald |
Peace
is a two way road of
conflict and compromise.
Ronald
Thomas |
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Compromise,
if not the spice of life, is its solidity.
It is what makes nations great and marriages happy.
Phyllis
McGinley |
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Franklin
may . . . be considered one of the founding fathers
of American democracy, since no democratic government
can last long without conciliation and compromise.
Samuel
Eliot Morison |
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Sometimes
compromise is important. Sometimes it's better
to give in to someone else's wishes in order to have fun as a
group or as a couple, or for the benefit of the team.
Sometimes
compromise is dangerous. We need to guard against
compromising
our standards to gain the approval or love of someone else.
Decide
when you can, and when you cannot, compromise. If it's
not harmful and you are ambivalent about a decision, then
compromise.
If it could lead to breaking your values, compromise isn't a
good idea.
Melody
Beattie |
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People
talk about the middle of the road as though it were
unacceptable.
Actually, all human problems, excepting morals, come into the
gray areas.
Things are not all black and white. There have to be
compromises.
The middle of the road is all of the usable surface.
The extremes, right and left, are in the gutters.
Dwight
D. Eisenhower |
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| Life cannot subsist in society but by reciprocal
concessions.
Samuel Johnson |
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“I
wish," he said, "I had known at eighteen what I know
now--that
there are some things on which one does not compromise.
Mary Balogh
Simply Perfect |
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rather astonishing to see just how few quotations are
out there that give a positive slant to the concept of
compromise. Most of the words we've found about
compromise treat the idea as almost evil, as if we lose
our humanity as soon as we even consider
compromise. If we compromise, people say, we're
settling for less than we deserve or we're showing
weakness by not being willing to push to get exactly
what we want.
This
seems to be a dangerous trend in the minds of our young
people, who are being taught to be intolerant of
anything except what they want. We read story
after story about teens who feel they deserve the very
best of everything, and who are unwilling to compromise
and accept anything but exactly what they want.
They seem to be taking lessons from people like Elbert
Hubbard, who said, "It is the
weak man who urges compromise--never the strong man."
What
a crock. Some of the strongest people in the world
have been masters of compromise. Mother Teresa,
Mikhael Gorbachev and Nelson Mandela come to mind.
Compromise
shows a willingness to try to understand that there are
other options available other than the ones we've
originally considered. It's a willingness to
consider the validity of other people's perspectives, to
consider the possibility that someone else may have a
better idea than we do. If I "back down"
and agree to see the movie my wife wants to see instead
of the one I originally wanted to see, what have I
lost? Absolutely nothing, and my willingness to
compromise has more than likely helped our
relationship. It's certainly helped me to feel
more peace of mind.
There
are some things that we never should compromise,
especially our ethics and our values. But such a
compromise means that we're making a decision to do
something that directly contradicts what we know to be
ethical. Compromise can be one of the most
powerful tools available to us in our quest to lead a
full life, as long as we can learn to recognize when
compromise is appropriate. Compromise means that
our happiness isn't tied to a certain outcome or course
of action, which frees us up to be ourselves, and to let
others in our lives be themselves, too. |
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I can accept anything, except what seems to be
the easiest for most
people: the half-way, the almost, the just-about, the
in-between.
Ayn Rand |
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Do
not compromise yourself and put your goodness in the same
impermanent category as whatever circumstance happening.
Be the best you in every circumstance.
Steve Maraboli |
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The
compromise will always be more expensive
than either of the suggestions it is compromising.
Arthur Bloch |
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Compromise
is but the sacrifice of one right or good in the
hope of retaining another--too often ending in the loss of both.
Tryon Edwards |
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Compromise makes a good
umbrella, but a poor
roof. It is temporary
expedient, often wise in party politics, almost sure
to be unwise in statesmanship.
James Russell Lowell |
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