rehabilitation counselor, was chronically late getting her
client reports written up. Every day, she gagged on
guilt, seeing the file folders accumulate, and she worried
about it on the weekend. Yet she felt powerless to get
at them unless a crisis occurred--either her boss got mad or
she needed the notes for court. We tried several
tactics for getting her motivated, but nothing worked.
I suggested she get help. She kept saying, "I
don't need help, I know how to do it, I just have to get
started." She would also add, "I feel so
stupid about this, I don't know why I'm such a baby."
and asked, "Do you want to know what I do when I feel
like a baby?"
laughed. "But isn't that giving up?"
up what?" I asked.
. . working it through."
that's a nice idea," I said. "But what's
life for? To be grueling it out all the time?
When I get anxious trying to get ready for a workshop, I
call my neighbor to come be with me. I get help
organizing my writing."
kind of help would I get?" she asked.
someone to come sit with you and talk you through it,
develop a new system--whatever you need," I said.
countered, "But that costs money."
laughed. "And these therapy sessions don't?"
paused, then said, "So you don't think I'm a
think you are a normal, grown-up woman who sometimes gets
overwhelmed. I think most of us have times when we
feel like a kid wanting a mommy to help us."
hired someone to come in and help her get a system
together. Then she asked friends to keep her company
on Saturday mornings while she wrote her notes. Her
Catholic guilt dogged her for a little while (things
shouldn't be this easy, there should be more struggle) but
she certainly felt a lot happier having her work under
to ask friends for help sometimes. It is also
wonderful if partners and loved ones can be
"baby-sitters" for each other on some of these
occasions--not as caretakers but as friends in need.
It's much easier to do things when we're not alone.
Davis Kasl, has hit the
nail on the head! Want to change your life for
the better? Want to really enjoy your days and
learn to get through the rough
ones? This book can help.
She has thought of everything
from finances to love, to kids,
to your entire outlook on life.
The sections are broken into
101 mini-topics; she uses techniques from many
cultures and religions without pushing any religion on
you. Read a section a day (If you can
put it down after just one!) and
you will feel the difference as you internalize the
beauty of true Joy
in your life. ~~Tiffonie Baker