from and about
(biographical info at bottom of page)
not you have children yourself, you are a parent
to the next generation. If we can only stop thinking of children
as individual property and think of them as the next generation,
then we can realize we all have a role to play.
of waiting to be an old lady to wear purple, wear it now.
Instead of waiting for retirement to live in a beautiful place,
finding a way to get there now. When we live our lives in
with our dreams, it becomes easy to cheer for other people doing
When we don't, it's easy to be sour grapes, unsupportive, or
when others break free and follow their heart's desire.
And remember, if all life is
sacred, then today is sacred.
Ask yourself, What am I doing to feel joy today? A wonderful
way to start the day is to bless it:
Blessings on this day, may I make it special in some way.
Blessings on my life, may I treat it with love and care.
Blessings on all people, may I see the goodness in everyone.
Blessings on nature, may I notice its beauty and wonder.
Blessings on the truth, may it be my constant companion.
When I was a
child, my father fixed everything around the house,
my mother sewed and cooked, and all four of us children had
Mother would take us out to every kind of orchard and farm
fruit and vegetables, which we would bring home and can. It
definitely a team effort, and one was seldom alone. Now we
faced with running a household alone and have expectations
should be able to do everything. In reality, most people
tasks that reduce them to feeling about four years old.
to your beliefs, think about how you learned them, and realize
that they are not genetic, nor are they the "only way."
You are free to acquire new perspectives, to absorb new ideas, and
to question everything you were taught to believe. As your mind
opens to exploration and change, you'll feel a new lightness and
we adopt certain beliefs when we're children and use them
when we become adults, without ever checking them out
against reality. This brings to mind the story of the woman who
cut off the end of the turkey when she put it in the oven. Her
asked her why, and her mother responded, "I don't know. My
always did it." Then she went and asked her mother, who said,
know. My mother always did it." The she went and asked her
grandmother, who said, "The oven wasn't big enough."
One of my fondest
memories from childhood is of looking at a globe
with my father. "What's the biggest country?" he'd ask
me and my
sister. We'd spin the globe around and guess. . . . The globe
me a sense of wonder and adventure. I wanted to go to those
other places and see how people did things differently. And, many
years later, when I did visit other countries, I took my father's
and fascination with me. When we plant the seeds of fascination
and respect for other people, we are teaching tolerance and peace.
father once told me of a trick question he used in a college class
fire control. If there was a fire coming from a certain direction
and wind was
coming from another, what was the best thing to do? The right
"Run like hell and pray for rain," but few students ever
got it. So allow yourself
the freedom of knowing there are times
to bail out, quit, run,
leave the struggle,
and have more time for joy.
planet earth has a life span of eight billion years, give or take
a few million. People have been around for approximately forty
years--a virtual blink in the cosmos. It is sad that we as a
ravaging the natural world so fast that we are jeopardizing our
survival. If we wipe ourselves out, it would be the height of
folly, but the earth will survive even us. It will eventually
It might take a few thousand years, and it won't be just as it was
but its life is stronger than death.
her site at charlottekasl.com:
Charlotte Kasl has an M.A. in Piano from The University of
Michigan, and a Ph.D. in Counseling from Ohio University in 1982.
She was a Licensed Psychologist in Minnesota for 15 years and is
currently a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Montana.
She is a Certified Addiction Specialist in the areas of chemical
dependency and sexuality and has had a private psychotherapy
practice for more than 30 years. She is the author of nine books
and numerous articles.
Dr. Kasl has conducted a wide variety of workshops on
relationships, addiction, sexuality, spirituality, community,
healing from incest and abuse, casting out internalized
oppression, preventing burn out, quantum healing, empowerment, and
finding joy, both in the United States and abroad. Her
groundbreaking book Many Roads, One Journey: Moving Beyond the
12 Steps, published in 1992, introduced a 16-step empowerment
approach for overcoming addiction that focuses on finding one’s
voice, building confidence, taking action on one’s behalf, and
understanding addiction in a cultural context. It has been used
throughout the United States and Canada, as well as Europe, to
assist in overcoming trauma, addiction, and depression.
In 1987, she was part of a task force funded by the Department of
Human Services in Minnesota to create a model treatment program
for chemically dependent women. She was on the advisory board of
The Women’s Recovery Network, The Women’s Action Alliance for
Alcohol and Drug Education, and invited twice by the National
Center for Substance Abuse Prevention to participate in a
synthesis conference to make recommendations on the needs of
women. She has consulted with numerous treatment programs and
served on several advisory boards, such as The Organization for
Secular Sobriety, known as Save OurSelves (SOS).
Dr. Kasl is also a founding member of ATTACH, The Association for
the Teaching and Training in the Attachment of Children. In 1997,
she received a Lifetime Achievement Award from the National
Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, (now knows as SASH
Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health) for her work with
women and sexuality. In 2000, If the Buddha Dated was one
of five finalists for the National Books for Better Living Awards.
In addition, she was listed in Self magazine as one of 50
“sage” psychologists in the United States.
In her psychotherapy therapy practice, Dr. Kasl takes an
empowering approach by helping people address the core issues
underlying depression, anxiety, addictions, and relationship
difficulties. She works with numerous therapeutic approaches, such
as ego state therapy, hypnosis, quantum psychology, EMDR,
cognitive therapy, and emotionally focused therapy for couples.
She is also an avid hiker, pianist, and has been a Reiki Master
Healer since 1983.
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Nightingale - Elaine St. James
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James - Henry Van Dyke
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Kant - Iyanla Vanzant - Jack
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Marshall III - Julia Cameron - Kent
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Leonard Jacobson - Leslie Levine
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Maria Child - Lynn Grabhorn - Marcus
Marianne Williamson - Martin
Luther King, Jr. - Maya Angelou
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Mohandas Gandhi - Morrie Schwartz
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Scott Peck - Nathaniel Branden
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Norman Vincent Peale - Og Mandino
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Maria Rilke - Ralph Waldo Trine
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Shakti Gawain - Soren
Kierkegaard - Stephen Covey - Stephen
C. Paul - Sue Patton Thoele
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Sylvia Boorstein - Thich Nhat Hanh
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Kinkade - Thomas Merton - Tom
Walsh - Victor Cherbuliez
Wayne Dyer - Wilferd A. Peterson
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James - William Wordsworth
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