4 March 2024
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Don't
let life discourage you; everyone who got where they are had
to begin where they were. -Richard L. Evans |
Those who make the worst use
of their time are the first to complain of its shortness.
-Jean La Bruyere |
The secret of
success is to be in harmony with existence, to be always
calm. . . to let each wave of life wash us a little farther
up the shore. -Cyril Connolly |
We
act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements
of life, when all that we need to make us really happy is
something to be enthusiastic about. -Charles Kingsley |
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The
Power of Awareness (an
excerpt)
Richard Moss
Any
story you tell yourself about who you are, any belief you
have, any feeling you are aware of, is only an object of
your larger consciousness. You, in your essence, are always
something that experiences all these and remains more
complete than any of them. When you realize that you
are inherently larger than any feeling that enters your
awareness, this very awareness will change the feeling, and
it will release its grip on you.
Similarly,
ideas that you have about yourself are relative, not
absolute truths. If you simply look at them and do not
let them lead you into further thinking, they will give
way and leave your mind open and silent. There is
always a relationship between who we believe or feel
ourselves to be and something else, the Self that is our
larger awareness.
In
awakening to this Self-me relationship, we begin to be
present with our experience in a new way. We learn to
consciously hold our thoughts and feelings in our own larger
fields of awareness. Then, even if we are troubled and
confused, this non-reactive quality of presence to ourselves
allows us to restore ourselves to a sense of
wholeness. This is the power of awareness.
Sensation
and Perception: Our Original Consciousness
The
great Indian sage Ramana Maharshi said that if we want to
know our true selves, we must “go back by the way that we
have come.”
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Our original state of consciousness in
childhood is not one of being a separate entity with our own
thoughts and sensations, but rather is a relatively
undifferentiated domain of sensation and perception.
Our parents, having already reached the developmental stage
of separate-self consciousness, provide the model by which
we begin to develop our own sense of the separate self.
But
when we take the developmental step into the consciousness
of the separate self and leave behind the universe of
immediacy and undifferentiated sensations, as a consequence
we also become identified with our sensations. Who is
happy? Me.
Who is angry, tired, frustrated . . . ? Me.
Our feelings acquire names, however, and at the same time,
we are defined by those feelings.
The
same is true with perception: we may not feel that the
sunshine on the trees is me,
but we cannot identify it without simultaneously existing as
a separate me.
In psychological and philosophical theory, this level of
consciousness is called “subject-object.” It is
the level of ego awareness where most human development
stops. We are aware as me,
we react as me,
we defend as me,
we desire as me,
but we are not aware of the true self. It is the true
self that looks at all we think, do, and experience,
including our sense of me.
In this looking, a relationship is created that has the
power to transform our experience of ourselves and our
worlds.
Throughout
our lives, the moment we bring our awareness fully into the
Now, we enter the domain of the true self, and our immediate
conscious reality is once again that of sensation and
perception. As I sit in the park, the sunlight
brightens the leaves and casts shadows on the ground. I have
a feeling of contentment. And as long as “I”
don’t create stories about what I am seeing or about the
fact that I am feeling content, which leads me away from my immediate
experience, what I experience remains simply
perception and sensation. The same is true for any
feeling, any emotion. In the Now, it is just what it
is. In the Now, I “go back” to my original
awareness “by the way that [I] have come.” When we
directly perceive and experience whatever is present in our
larger fields of awareness, it is possible to have a
relationship with it without becoming lost in it or defined
by it.
Exercising
the Power of Awareness
We
exercise the power of awareness and strengthen our spiritual
muscle by bringing ourselves, over and over again, into the
immediate present. To do so, we must become present with
what we are feeling and thinking. We can turn our attention
directly toward what we are experiencing instead of staying
enmeshed in a feeling or blindly accepting our beliefs about
ourselves.
It
makes all the difference in the world whether we are caught
in a negative emotion and say, “I am sad, angry,
lonely,” and so on, or are able to recognize, at that
moment, “Here am I, all wound up in sensations of
resentment. Here am I, fuming with anger.”
Awareness of our sensations is not the same as identifying
with our thoughts or feelings. Every movement back to
present-moment awareness grounds us in the body and opens
the connection to our larger awareness.
Even
the smallest movement toward exercising the power of
awareness, instead of collapsing our larger awareness into
our thoughts and feelings and thereby becoming identified
with them, restores us to a more complete
consciousness. It gives us the power to start from a
fresh, open, less conditioned relationship to our
experience. This doesn’t necessarily mean that our
problems disappear. But as we exercise the power of
awareness, our reflexive reactivity diminishes. We
respond from a state of greater presence. When we
collapse into our feelings, we lose this capacity. We
default into me,
and this limited self seems like the whole of who we are.
Then we have no choice but to react because we feel as if we
must defend ourselves.
The
Fundamental Relationship
What
are we actually doing when we bring our awareness fully into
the present and realize “Here am I . . . ”? We are
moving into a more spacious awareness and thus creating
conscious distance from what we are experiencing. At
the same time, we are opening toward our immediate
experience to see it as it is, to see it fully, to invite it
to reveal itself more completely to us. We are seeing
as objectively as we can, without reacting or judging.
This lets us more completely realize what we are actually
feeling or sensing; we do not merely remain in our heads,
interpreting and analyzing.
It
is important to point out that moving our awareness into the
Now and thereby gaining distance from our feelings and
thoughts is not dissociation. A frequent mistake people make
with Eastern meditation practices is to try to rise above
and detach from an experience, especially whenever the
experience is considered negative. To exercise the
power of awareness, we are required to become more present
in our experiences without losing our larger
awareness. With this quality of attention, we gain
true understanding. We naturally begin to respond to
our experiences in the most appropriate and intelligent
ways.
This
intimate viewing of ourselves by our awareness is the most
fundamental of all relationships. We create the
possibility of a conscious, empathetic connection between me
(or self) and our true selves, or what is alternatively
referred to as the Self. The personal self that we
experience as ourselves is held, seen, and felt deeply by that,
which will never reject me,
never turn away, never judge me.
It can see us judging, attacking ourselves, creating our own
misery; but it does not judge even this. It is simply
present with me.
This
presence need not be merely neutral or indifferent. We
can let it be our trusted friend, like the Persian mystic
poets Hafiz and Rumi did when they referred to it as the
“Guest” or the “Beloved,” to whom they offered
themselves and who always received them.
The
key to cultivating the healing potential of the self-Self
relationship is the quality of our attention -- the
steadiness, gentleness, and acceptance of the “gaze” we
turn toward ourselves. We must be truly willing to
experience our feelings and clearly see our thoughts without
reaction, allowing the moment to be exactly as it is without
defending ourselves against these feelings and thoughts,
without our minds moving away into further thought.
Then that
which transcends our capacity to name or categorize it in
any way, is present to us and has the same accepting quality
that we present to ourselves. This is also the essence
of meditation and prayer. By keeping our attention in
the present moment, we can become transparent to what is
transcendent. It is the Self’s profoundly empathetic
acceptance of self that ultimately sustains us when we face
our deepest fears, including even our egos’ primal terror,
nonbeing.
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Copyright
Richard Moss, MD.
Richard Moss is
an internationally respected teacher, visionary thinker, and
author of five seminal books on transformation,
self-healing, and the importance of living consciously.
For forty years he has guided people from diverse backgrounds
and disciplines in the use of the power of awareness to
realize their intrinsic wholeness and reclaim the wisdom of
their true selves. He teaches a practical philosophy of
consciousness that models how to integrate spiritual
practice and psychological self-inquiry into a concrete and
fundamental transformation of people's lives. Richard lives
in Ojai, California, with his wife, Ariel. Visit him
at https://richardmoss.com.
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Your
Priorities Are Showing!
Kathy Gates
Everybody's
heard the phrase, "get
your priorities straight."
But what does that mean?
Often I've found, it means that whoever is saying it
doesn't think you have HIS or HER priorities at the top of your list.
As a child, whenever my dad would say that in a stern voice
to me, I often noticed that it was his goal that he thought I was
ignoring, and not necessarily my own.
The term 'creating priorities' goes by a lot of other names as
well. Some people
call it focus; author Stephen Covey calls it being principal-centered; a marketing campaign says "just do it."
What it means is that you choose what's important to you,
and you direct your
time, energy, money, space, opportunity, etc. towards it.
You protect it. You
invest in it. You
simplify your life so that you are not distracted by things that
do not CONTRIBUTE to your priorities.
In
a magazine article I read recently, it noted that many of us are overwhelmed
by the choices available to us.
As an example, there are 597 shades of red lipstick!
If you try to examine each and every option available to
you, you'll spend all your time just trying to wade through them.
It's important to realize that things that are not directly
contributing to your priorities are contaminating them.
Establishing a filter to quickly decide if it meets the
criteria of your priorities is vitally important.
Stephen
Covey mentions how we tend to respond to urgent, but not
necessarily important things, in our lives.
That is because we don't stop long enough to decide what's
important, decide what we want to spend our time on, and most
importantly decide what we DON'T want to spend our time on.
Instead we just respond to the next ringing phone, the next
problem, the next color of lipstick that gets our attention.
Distractions don't just take away your time, energy, and money;
they actively contaminate your priorities. You must protect your
priorities even at the risk of sounding selfish.
When you let go of your priorities to respond to someone
else's agenda, you are not only putting yourself at the bottom of
your own priority list, you are also responding to THEIR priority.
People
often come to me and say, "One of my priorities is to be
happy, or to be successful, or to have peace of mind".
Happiness is a feeling, or maybe something we experience.
The same can be said of success, or peace of mind.
To have the life you want you must be able to describe it
in more concrete terms. To
define your priorities so that you can ACT on them, you must be
able to break it down in specific measurable goals.
What is it you really really want in your life that would
"make you happy"? How
do you measure happiness?
How will you know when you're successful?
The
modern media has given us the idea that if we are really really
busy now, one day out of the blue, our great simplified life will
fall out of the sky. That
is totally and completely backwards!
We can't have it all.
We never could, and never will.
You must choose. If
you create the simplicity now, and direct your energy into your
priorities, THEN success will follow.
You must pick your priorities and nurture them so that they
grow.
Creating
priorities doesn't mean that you have to choose between family and
career. Not at all.
That's about balance (a whole different show!).
Creating priorities does mean that you do have to choose
the way you allocate your time.
Each of us is given the same 24 hours each day.
Successful or happy people spend theirs in a way that takes
them towards their goals. The
key to success here is to examine how you spend your time in
relation to what you say your priorities are.
"Don't schedule your time around your priorities,
schedule your priorities around your time."
You do
not HAVE to spend many many hours preparing food, cleaning the
house, maintaining the landscape, running errands, watching TV, or
playing computer games. You
may choose to do that, but then you are making choices that do not
reflect what you SAY are your choices about your priorities.
If you
choose to spend a large amount of time on things that are low on
your list of priorities, then a reallocation of time is the only
way that you will ever achieve your most important goals.
If you don't do that, then that too is a choice…a choice
that probably reflects where your true priorities are.
Creating
priorities is where the real "YOU" comes into play.
This is a very individual step, and one that requires that
you reach into your heart and tell the truth about what you really
want out of life. It's
time to stop listening to what your mother wanted, or what your
friends talked you into in college.
What's important to you?
How do you want to live your life?
No matter
what your priorities are--financial security, healthy
relationships, or having more free time--creating and following
your priorities can achieve them all.
Successful people have known this for years.
Now it's YOUR turn to use their secrets to your advantage.
"Though
no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start
from now and make a brand new ending." -- Carl Bard
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A Lot to Like
It always fascinates me to
see just how critical we are of ourselves, and just how often we
express that self-criticism. Many of the things that we say
about ourselves we would never, ever consider saying about another
person, so why in the world do we say them about ourselves?
For some reason, we think that it's okay to say things like
"I'm so stupid" about something that we've done, while
we would never imagine telling someone else that he or she is
stupid for having done the exact same thing.
I do this myself very often, and I really don't like it when I do
so. For the most part, I'm pretty fair with myself, and I
like the person I am. At times, though, the thought patterns
with which I grew up many years ago surface again, and instead of
liking myself and the things that I do, I tend to be
hyper-critical of myself, and I tend not to like the person I am.
And this is ridiculous. After all, I was created by the same
power through which every other person who ever has lived was
created, so there's no reason for which I should be more critical
of myself than I am of others. I've worked hard all my life,
and I've been a very responsible person, so I shouldn't be
critical of the things that I've done or how I've done them.
Yes, I've done some stupid things (and some idiotic things, and
some mean things), but I've never done them purposefully, and
they're in my past now.
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It is of practical value to learn to like yourself.
Since you must
spend so much time with yourself you might as well
get some satisfaction out of the relationship.
Norman Vincent Peale
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I obviously
can't say that I'm just like everyone else, but I do
know from experience that almost everyone I've met
is more critical with themselves than they are
loving with themselves. Most people dwell on
their own perceived thoughts and shortcomings
rather than on their own strengths and
successes. Even people who are very successful
tend to focus on their few failures rather than
their many successes. And the problem is that
this type of approach often actually keeps us from
being successful--because we're so harsh on
ourselves, we start to feel inadequate and even
incompetent, so when an opportunity to shine does
come along, we don't shine because we've convinced
ourselves that we aren't capable of doing so.
But think about yourself objectively. Step
outside of your skin for a few moments, and look at
who you are and what you do from a different
perspective. What would you tell yourself
about yourself if you were a different person?
The chances are that you'd find more to like than to
criticize; more to encourage than to discourage;
more to love than to dislike.
There's an awful lot to like in who you are.
You are a wonderful creation, a person who has made
his or her way through a great deal of adversity and
a great number of trials, and here you are still,
making your way through more. You've made
mistakes, but you've also helped other people by
giving them encouragement, love, and time, and
physical effort. You've made mistakes, but
you've owned up to them and did your best to avoid
them afterwards. You've even ended up making
the same mistakes--and you may still be making
them--but you're still searching for the strength
and wisdom inside that will allow you to stop making
them.
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You must love yourself before you love another. By
accepting yourself and fully being what you are,
your simple
presence can make others happy.
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We almost never
give up on people we love, but sometimes we're more
than willing to give up on ourselves. Perhaps
we're mad at ourselves for not pursuing our dreams;
while we would tell someone else that it's okay
because life sometimes has other things planned for
us, we tell ourselves that this is a bad thing and
that we're failures. Maybe we made a bad
career move, and while we would tell someone else
that it's never too late to make a new start, we
feel ourselves that we're stuck and that there's no
way out--and we never give ourselves a chance to
make that new start.
But each of us is as deserving of love as every
other person on this planet--and we're especially
deserving of our own love. And it should be
easy for us to show ourselves compassion, for we
know better than anyone else the kinds of trials and
adversity that we've been through, the kinds of
things that we've had to deal with in our lives.
There's a lot to love about you. You are an
amazing creation in an amazing world, and you really
have done your best in all that you've done, even if
you have fallen short in some ways. Think
about the kind things that you would say to someone
else who also has fallen short--keep your chin up,
you'll do better next time, you did the best you
could, I'm proud of you for trying--and tell
yourself such things as much as you can. You
don't want to lie to yourself and tell yourself that
you tried hard when you really didn't, but you also
don't want to ignore the efforts that you have made
to do right as much as you can.
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Most
of the time you are growing up, people tell you what's
wrong with
you. Your
coach tells you, your parents tell you,
the teachers tell you when
they grade you. I think that's very
good in the early stages, because it helps you
then develop skills.
But at some point in your career, generally I think when you are
in your teens, you
look in a mirror and you have to say, despite
all the bumps and
warts, "I like that
person I'm
looking at, and let's just do our best."
Robert D. Ballard
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I've always had
a very hard time with this, but I am getting better
at it. I'm getting better at giving myself a
break and giving myself credit for the efforts I've
made, rather than focusing exclusively on the
mistakes and blunders I've made. I realize
that I am a pretty good person, and I'm deserving of
good treatment, especially of myself. And just
as I wouldn't insult someone else for a simple
failure, I'm not going to get down on myself for
such a thing. I'm going to be kind to myself
while still having high expectations of myself, and
I'm going to be fair to myself at all times.
There will be times when it's important that I hold
myself responsible for not doing all that I should,
but there will also be times when it's important
that I encourage myself and even compliment myself.
You, too, are deserving of compassion, love, and
encouragement, and perhaps you're not getting enough
from others because you're not giving enough to
yourself. People are pretty good at noticing
the ways that we treat ourselves, and then they tend
to treat us in a very similar fashion. So if
we're not treating ourselves with kindness, we could
actually be teaching others about the way we expect
to be treated by them, and many people are all too
happy to oblige us by doing what we ask of them.
There's an awful lot to like about you. Give
yourself credit for that fact, and treat yourself
well. You deserve it, and your life will
definitely improve it you simply improve the way
that you treat that very special person, your self.
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Some
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It is not about bliss or freedom from suffering.
It is not even about life beyond death. Nor can
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The abundant life is about abundant love and abundant
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It shows in our willingness to give of ourselves
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overflow to fill the voids and wants of a broken and
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