24 May 2022
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Humor
is a reminder that no matter how high the throne one sits on,
one sits on one's bottom.
Taki
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Be not
afraid of life.
Believe that
life
is worth living
and
your
belief will
help create the fact.
William
James
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I don't ask
for the meaning of the song of a bird or the rising of the sun on a misty morning.
There they are, and they are beautiful.
Pete Hamill
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Every
person who knows how to read has it in their power to magnify,
to multiply the ways in which they exist, to make their lives
full, significant, and interesting.
Aldous
Huxley
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Wake
Up from Autopilot
Debbie Ford
In order to feed our internal flames, we must wake up
and make each of our choices conscious. A
conscious choice reflects our highest commitments and
is in direct alignment with our vision for our
lives. When we make conscious choices, we take
into consideration the effect that our actions will
have on our lives as a whole. We take the time
to reflect on where our choices will lead us and the
impact they will have on our future.
Every time we slip into unconsciousness and forget
about our deepest desires, we fall into an automatic
trance, collapsing into whatever programming and
patterns exist from our past. This trance is
like going on autopilot: it takes no effort, no
thinking. It's the trance of denial. This
trance whispers in our ears, "It doesn't
matter. Just one more time. I'll start
tomorrow. I really don't want it anyway.
It's okay; no one will know." The voice of
this trance encourages us to take the easy way
out. "No worries!" it cries as we turn
off the road of our dreams and down the circular
pathway of our past. The trance of denial takes
us from one moment to the next, one day to the next,
and one year to the next while our dreams and our
lives turn into repetitive excuses taking us on the
road to nowhere.
When we are acting on automatic, we fail to see the
consequences of our behaviors. We blindly go
about our days, never considering the long-term vision
for our lives. We
neither examine our motives nor try to understand what
is directing our choices.
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Our actions are
reactions, our choices based on the way we feel in the
moment, with no consideration for their impact on our
failure.
In any given moment we are being guided by one of two
maps: a vision map, which is a deliberate plan
for our future, or a default map, which is made up of
our past. Choices made from our default map--our
repetitive, automatic programming--do not nourish our
flames, nor to they move us closer to our
dreams. And even though they may feel right to
us, they do so simply because they are familiar.
Let me give you an example:
Jody, a pediatrician with a thriving practice, has a
goal of taking one week off per quarter, for a total
of four weeks' vacation time a year. Her
assistant schedules these weeks well in advance on
Jody's calendar. Yet whenever Jody gets backed
up with patients, instead of looking to her vision map
for direction, her automatic response, made from her
default map, is to cancel her plans and take care of
those in need. Many times she has given up her
commitment to take time off for family and fun and
acted unconsciously only to regret it in the end.
Before Jody could grasp the freedom to do anything
different, she first had to realize that her automatic
response was guiding her actions. Her default
map was directing her to say yes to the demands of her
patients. Without looking, she made choices that
ultimately took her away from the life she
desired. Jody realized that when she was on
autopilot she had no choice in this area of her
life. This realization enabled her to make a
new, conscious choice that was in direct alignment
with her goals and objectives.
When we're making unconscious choices, we can be
certain that we are not present in the here and
now. When we go unconscious, we put ourselves at
risk of falling prey to our lowest impulses.
Unknowingly we turn our lives over to the default map,
which is made up of our past and everything in it, and
in seconds we find ourselves headed in a direction
directly opposite of where we want to go. We're
asleep at the wheel, letting our past and our fears
dictate and limit our futures.
This point was clearly illustrated to me by an old
wise man whom I met many years ago. We spoke
about life, being human, and the trials and
tribulations of evolving our consciousness. At
the end of our time together he leaned over and said
quite seriously, "Most of us are robots, taking
orders and responding to the collective pool of our
unprocessed emotions and traumas." We're on
automatic--re-creating the past, slaves to our
addictions, our cravings, and our unfulfilled
needs: "I want some ice cream."
That picture would look perfect in my living
room. "I'll start my exercise program
tomorrow." "Next time I'll be more
assertive."
If you make a list of some of your past choices in an
area of your life where you haven't gotten the results
you desired, you'll undoubtedly discover that you have
been asleep at the wheel. Unknowingly, you've flicked
on the switch that reads, AUTOMATIC PILOT, NO
ATTENTION NEEDED. Somehow you've forgotten that
your future is determined by the choices you make
today. And instead of stopping and referring to
your vision map to make sure that the choices you're
making will take you where you want to go, you just do
whatever seems easiest at the time. . . .
Whether you know it or not, you can always decide
between conscious and unconscious choices. Every
day you have the power to look away and assign your
destiny to the wind or to move your life powerfully
forward in the direction of your dreams. . . . This is
not a dress rehearsal; this is your life.
Either you will milk it for all it's worth and
manifest what you truly desire or you will go to your
grave regretting that you didn't make different
choices. . . . every time you make a choice, that
choice either takes you closer to where you want to go
or moves you further away.
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Choose the Path That Makes the Best Story
John Izzo
How do we keep from living a life with
regret? In the introduction to this book I
mentioned a woman named Margaret who told me how she
tried to live her life from the perspective of an old
woman sitting in a rocking chair on the porch.
She told me that whenever she had a decision to make
she asked herself this question: "When I am
an old woman sitting in my rocking chair thinking
about my life, what decision will I wish I had
made?" She told me that in almost every
case, the path she should take became clear to
her. Deena Metzger, well-known author and
spiritual guide, put it this way: "Choose
the path that makes for the best story."
This is an interesting but simple way to live a
life with no regrets. We continually look ahead
and ask ourselves when I am old or when I come to
the end of my life will I regret the step I am about
to make? Will the way I am living now lead
to the path of regret or no regrets?
Earlier
in my life, as a young adult, I had many opportunities
to do interesting things. As I listened to the
stories of people's lives, I realized that some of my
most significant regrets have to do with the
opportunities I turned away, often because of
fear. One of these moments occurred while I was
in seminary studying for the ministry. On two
occasions I was offered a summer chaplaincy internship
in two of America's great national parks, Grand Teton
and Shenandoah. Nature had always held a special
place in my heart, but I grew up in a large city and I
had never had the opportunity to spend a significant
amount of time in the outdoors.
The
idea of working in a park was deeply appealing, and
part of me knew the experience would be
invaluable. However, I was involved in a
relationship at the time and worried about being
separated from this person for a few months, so I
turned down the opportunity both times. To this
day, I believe that if I had projected my self ahead
to the old man on the porch, I might have heard myself
say: "If the relationship is strong, it
will survive the absence, but you love nature and may
never be offered this chance again." The
relationship did not last, and the opportunity never
came again.
There
is a more recent example from my life. This past
year a good friend of mine offered me the opportunity
to spend a month in East Africa with 15 other mid-life
men, meeting with tribal elders and camping in the
wilderness. This was a dream come true, but it
was my busiest time of the year, and I would have to
turn down a significant amount of work to take this
trip. This time, I paid a visit to that old man
on the porch. He told me: "When you
are my age, you won't miss the money you lost this
month, but you will carry Africa in your
heart." I took the trip, explored several
fascinating cultures, saw amazing wilderness that I
had never seen before, and missed the presence of my
family, which reminded me of how much they mean to
me. While in Tanzania, I sat with tribal elders
and germinated the idea for this project. My
worry about the interference of a "busy"
schedule almost got in the way of one of the most
important experiences of my life.
The
most important thing the conversations that led me to
this book taught me about this second secret is to
make sure we try for the things we want in our lives,
because we are unlikely to regret trying and
failing. The second most important lesson is
that if there is a relationship that must be healed,
heal it now. When I ask people about regrets in
their lives, most of them spoke about people in their
lives, about issues not resolved, words not spoken,
broken relationships never healed.
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You
can tell more about people
by what they say about others
than you
can by what
others say about them.
Leo Aikman
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I'm Not like That
I used to look at a lot of people and wish that I
could be like them. I used to wish that I could
be more outgoing, more encouraging, more friendly,
more helpful, more useful to others. I used to
wish that I was a person whom others would search out
when they wanted friendship, company, encouragement,
or simply the presence of another person.
But even though I wished I could do some of the things
that other people did, I always had a built-in excuse
ready to counter those thoughts: "I'm not
like that." Even if I did wish that I were
like that, I told myself I wasn't. And that
ended my wish right then and there.
Now that I'm older, though, I react differently when I
see people doing things I wish I could do and acting
in ways I wish I could act. Instead of saying
that I'm not like that person, I now ask myself,
"What would I need to do in order to be like
that? What fears would I have to face?
What risks would I have to take?"
For example, I know someone who very simply and easily
gives hugs to other people. I was raised in a
family in which we had almost no physical contact, and
hugs were rare--very, very rare. Because of this
fact, I grew up not giving hugs to others, and even
feeling a bit awkward when other people wanted to hug
me. I knew that I liked hugging others, but it
just wasn't the way that I was.
I had to ask myself, though, if I could be a person
who gives hugs, who actually initiates hugs when I see
people I care for. And if I could be such a
person, what would it mean? What kinds of risks
would I have to take? What kinds of fears would
I have to face? First of all, the obvious one is
the discomfort with physical contact that resulted
from years of having little to none as a child.
Second, I'd have to face my fear of rejection and put
it aside, taking the risk that I would be rejected if
I tried to hug someone.
But when I faced my fears and started to hug people
more often, I found that it was much easier than I had
thought it would be. I was able to do something
that I had thought I wouldn't be able to do, and with
no real problems at all. I still don't hug
everyone I meet, but I am much better at hugging
people than I ever was before I finally rejected the
"I'm Not like That" attitude and started
asking myself what it would take to actually be like
that.
There are plenty of traits that I admire in other
people. I admire some people's creativity, work
habits, interpersonal skills, business skills,
attitudes, and accomplishments. But I don't want
to be like all of them. I'd love to be able to
play the piano, but when I asked myself what it would
take to be a decent player, I realized that I was
neither willing nor able to devote the kind of time
that would have been necessary to do so. So when
someone sits down and plays and it sounds great, I can
say "I can't do that" with no trace of
regret, for I've made the decision not to pursue that
hobby.
But when I see someone stand up for what is right in a
very assertive manner and realize that I feel that I
should be doing the same thing, then it's important
for me to realize that I can be that way--if I make
the decision to do so and follow through on what I
need to do. It definitely is up to me
completely, and it also is something that's within my
reach as long as I'm willing to make the effort.
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Everyone journeys
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character as well as
through time.
The person one
becomes
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one has been.
Dick Francis
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Secret of
Serenity
Wilferd A. Peterson
The
ocean has many moods. Sometimes the colors of the sunrise
are painted on the ocean surface as on a huge smooth
canvas. At other times whitecapped waves thunder against
the shore.
The
surface of the ocean changes constantly. Now it is smooth
and quiet. Again it becomes violent and tempestuous.
But in its depths,
down under the storms that whip the surface
into a fury, there is a zone
of eternal calm which no storm ever
reaches, no hurricane ever ruffles.
The
surface of life is also in a state of constant flux, with good
days
and bad, victory and defeat. To maintain, as the
ocean does,
a deep inner calm, while the storms of misfortune,
fears and worries
lash at the surface of life, is to discover
the secret of serenity.
Years
ago, when Thomas Edison's factory burned down, he wasted
no time
bemoaning his fate. Immediately after the disaster the
reporters
found a calm, quiet man already at work on plans for a
new building.
When
Emerson's home was destroyed by fire and his precious books
were
being reduced to ashes, Louisa May Alcott came to console
him. The great philosopher said, "Yes, yes, Louisa,
they are all gone,
but let us enjoy the blaze now. Isn't
it beautiful!"
Such
people are ocean personalities. In their inner depths
they
are not defeated by what happens to them.
The
towering waves of circumstances cannot reach us when we go
deep
within to seek the peace that passes all understanding. While the
surface of life is in turmoil we can find an inner
calmness to see us through.
Walt
Whitman must have discovered this truth, for he wrote,
"Nothing external to me can have any power over me."
The
stillness of the ocean depths is a symbol of perfect poise.
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None
of us knows what the next change is going to be, what unexpected
opportunity is just around the corner, waiting to change all the
tenor of our lives.
Kathleen
Norris
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