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Victims declare,“The world is
responsible for me,” and never
do anything to better
their quality of life.

Henry Cloud
Changes That Heal

The problem that we have with a victim mentality is that we forget to see the blessings of the day. Because of this, our spirit is poisoned instead of nourished. Steve Maraboli Unapologetically You

When you feel like a victim, always suspect that you may be caught in your own errors of righteousness. Martha Beck The Way of Integrity

So, while we may be genuinely victimized, we never have to accept “victim” as an identity. We have the freedom to respond to every situation with creative thought or action. Sometimes this means clarifying our thoughts. Sometimes it means speaking out. Sometimes it compels action. Always, it begins by observing our own raging thoughts and asking ourselves, “Can I absolutely know that I’m purely a victim, with no creative options whatsoever?” Martha Beck The Way of Integrity

There is a fine line between compassion and a victim mentality. Compassion, though, is a healing force and comes from a place of kindness towards yourself. Playing the victim is a toxic waste of time that not only repels other people, but also robs the victim of ever knowing true happiness. Bronnie Ware The Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Victimhood is such a compelling story, but it’s not
a healing story. It’s a story that keeps you stuck.

Geneen Roth

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As I'd seen over and again, people who see themselves as
victims sometimes don't notice when they become oppressors.

Souad Mekhennet
I Was Told to Come Alone

As humans, our tendency is to play victim. And unless you’re watchful,
it will sneak up on you and you’ll start blaming outside forces—parents,
spouses, bosses, the weather, the government, circumstances, “the Man,”
whomever—for your problems.
In reality, we are not victims. We’re agents. We are the creative
forces of our lives, and we are free to choose. But we have
to be reminded of this all the time.

Sean Covey

Rather than empowering themselves, some individuals choose
to self-inflict wounds, allowing them to assume the role of the victim.

Carlos Wallace
Life is not Complicated, You Are

If you teach your kids to be a victim, you’ll rob them of hope.

Frank Sonnenberg
The Path to a Meaningful Life

Perception is everything. If you see everything through the lens
of the naysayers or through a victim perspective, then it’s
hard to get what you really want in life.

Keisha Blair
Holistic Wealth

You relinquish your power when you blame others for situations in your life.
The blame does not change the situation and only keeps you in a victim
mentality. Accept that the situation occurred and find a way to transcend
it and you will reclaim your power and become the victor.

Nanette Mathews

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a
victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself.

Harvey Fierstein

Bottom line, I removed myself from the victim mentality and took
control of my life. I'm not just going to take responsibility for the
success in my life - I'm going to take responsibility for the failures
in my life. When you're willing to accept that you're the problem,
you immediately become the solution.

Eric D. Thomas

Victimhood gives us great moral superiority and entitles us to
unquestioning sympathy while exempting us from examining
any single one of our actions. A victim is utterly devoid of
responsibility or blame. This of course leaves us vulnerable
as we will carry on engaging in precisely the behaviour
which provoked an unacceptable response.

Belinda Brown

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It is not uncommon for someone to be a self-saboteur and
compound that by also having a victim mentality. It is as
though they are holding their own breath and then blaming
others for their inability to breathe. If they can break free from
this cycle, everything in their life changes for the better.

Steve Maraboli

We live in a society of victimization, where people are
much more comfortable being victimized than
actually standing up for themselves.

Marilyn Manson

The victim mindset or the success mindset are both self-fulfilling
prophecies. Change your mindset, and it will change your life.

Natalie O’Rourke

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too
much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable
of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line,
growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.

J. Michael Straczynski

Playing the victim in a situation where you’re not one, is wasting
not only other people’s energy but your own.

Brené Brown

A sure way for me to blunt my aliveness, my day-to-day experience
of my vitality, is to live in victimhood, blame the weather, blame
the traffic. What I notice is, if I stop blaming and I choose to
move the locus of control back over here, and I choose to have
agency, to be responsible for my experience, not the external
world, but to be responsible for my experience, there’s a surge
of energy that comes back in the body

Jim Dethmer