can't stop things from happening, can we? And most
things that happen in our lives we have no control over at
all. Which leaves us with our reactions to what
happens to us, and the way we grow (or don't grow) based
on our reactions. We choose how to react, and those
choices help to determine the people we become.
know people who seem always to react in a way that will
make someone else feel guilty for something. Their
reactions typically are self-pitying and designed to make
others react. There are hurricane victims who
complain about how unfair life is, and there are those who
look at what has happened and decide what needs to be
done. And then they do it, without ever trying to
get anyone else to feel the least bit sorry for them.
are people who have grown.
something happens that may be negative, the best thing we
can do is figure out how to fix it or how to make the best
of it. Whining never helps, not does blaming.
When we choose a mature, responsible reaction to a
situation, we choose to grow and to show others just what
kinds of reactions are the most appropriate.