This has been one of the most difficult truths for me
to grasp throughout my life. I've had a hard time
believing that much of what goes on in my life, many of
the things that happen to me, are happening basically
because of the ways that I look at the world. When
people have hurt me, I can see in retrospect that it came
about because I believed that people would hurt me.
When financial problems have set in, it's usually been a
result of my beliefs that I somehow would always have
It's very important that we recognize this dynamic,
because it's very important that we examine our belief
systems. Many people are caught up in destructive
relationships because they've always believed deep down
that they were unworthy of someone better. Many
people are stuck in jobs that they hate because they
somehow believe in their hearts that work is meant to be
unpleasant and meaningless, and that they don't deserve a
decent job with decent pay.
It's also very important, though, that we don't start
playing the blame game--these beliefs aren't our fault,
so to speak. They've developed as we've grown, all
our lives long, like our hearts and our lungs have
developed: steadily and out of sight. But even
though we can't blame ourselves, we also can't allow the
negative beliefs continue to disrupt our lives and harm
us. We do have to examine our core beliefs and find
those that are damaging, and then do the work necessary to
replace them with positive beliefs if we're ever to find
improvement. No knight in shining armor is going to
show up to do it for us--it's work that we must do
ourselves. And we must do it soon if there's to be
any change soon.
Once we replace--truly replace--the old beliefs with
positive new ones, we'll find a huge change in our
lives. We'll find that things that we've always
wanted to happen will start happening, for now we truly
believe that we deserve the good things in life.
We'll find that things that we've always wanted to do are
now possible, for we truly believe in our own abilities,
talents, and potential. And once that shift happens,
not even the sky is the limit. . . .
How do our belief systems take root? Are we in
control of the process? Are they even our beliefs?
How could it be possible that our beliefs can influence
what happens in our lives? Can they affect our
actions and lack of action?
What would you have to do to actively change a belief that
you've held, either consciously or unconsciously, for a