There is no true and
constant gentleness without humility.
While we are
so fond of ourselves, we are easily offended with
others. Let us be persuaded that nothing is due to us, and
nothing will disturb us. Let us often think of
our own infirmities,
and we will become indulgent towards
those of others.
I read stories about monks and other people who are
incredibly humble, I find myself feeling a bit of
envy. I would love to be able to live a truly humble
life, to be a truly humble person. In fact, that's one
of the things I'm working on regularly through reading and
other methods. Humility is in many ways the cause of a
beautiful life, but it's also the result of a beautiful
life, I think. It seems like a Catch-22 situation--you
can't be humble until you tame your ego, and you can't tame
your ego until you learn humility.
think that Fenelon is right on--one of the most important
aspects of humility in our own lives is the effect that it
has on the way we treat others. True humility doesn't
allow us to judge others, and it doesn't allow us to beat
them down for what we see as their transgressions or their
mistreatment of us. Everyone has faults and
shortcomings, but they become magnified when we judge them,
and that magnification turns them into something worse than
they really are.
we are due nothing, then we won't feel resentment when we
get nothing. We won't be disturbed by other people's
failure to give us what we think we have coming, which is
often a misconception, anyways--either we really don't have
anything coming, or it's not up to someone else to give it
helps us to live in balance. If we're humble, we're
able to let go of expectations and be satisfied with all
that life has to offer, and that satisfaction helps us to
live happy, healthy lives.