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with you this week. We hope that you're making your season bright,
and that you're able to make this holiday season your best ever!
Every Christmas Eve when I was small my father and I would
take the subway to downtown Manhattan and go shopping for
presents for my mother, my aunt, my friends, my teacher,
and other important persons in my life. These were
special, even magical times. Everything was
decorated for Christmas. The windows of the stores
up and down Fifth Avenue were magnificent, and some even
had whole mechanical villages that moved or a mechanical
Santa that waved. It was almost always cold, and the
nighttime streets were crowded with smiling people
carrying beautifully wrapped packages, the women in furs
and the men in overcoats with velvet collars.
Thinking back on it now after more than fifty years, it
seems to me that I could see the joy in people shining in
the streets. Christmas music poured out of every
open doorway. In my memory, it is always lightly
snowing, and everyone had snowflakes on their coats and in
their hair.
We
would start at Rockefeller Plaza and stare in awe at the
enormous, beautifully decorated tree, debating whether
this year's decorations were more beautiful than last.
They always were. We would watch the skaters for a
while. And the we would move slowly down Fifth
Avenue, stopping in every store, thinking of the people I
loved, one at a time, looking at many, many things until I
found just the right one for each of them.
At
some point during the evening, my father would hand me
his big gold pocket watch and tell me that when it
chimed I was to come and meet him right where we were
standing, and then I would go off alone in whatever
store we were in to find his present. While I was
gone, my father would do a little shopping of his own.
I
got to stay up late, far later than my usual bedtime,
and it was often close to midnight when we got home, our
arms filled with boxes, each of which had been specially
wrapped at the store. My mother always had cocoa
waiting, and we would show her the beautiful boxes and
tell her about the wonderful things we had found for
everyone--but not, of course, what we had found for her.
It
was a chance to think about each one of my beloved
people, who they were and what might make them glad.
I remember the indescribable feeling of finding each
present and the joy of recognizing it as just the very
thing. There was much pleasure in choosing the
paper and ribbon and watching it wrapped in a way that
was as special as the person it was for. I loved
finding these presents. It made me feel very
lucky.
In
thinking back, I realize that I never actually saw many
of these presents opened. They would be mailed
away or left under other people's Christmas trees.
Somehow this never mattered. The important moment
wasn't in the opening, or in the thanking. The
important thing was the blessing of having someone to
love.
On
Christmas Eve, as usual, George Mason was the last to
leave the office. He stood for a moment at the
window, watching the hurrying crowds below, the strings
of colored Christmas lights, the fat Santa Clauses on
the street corners. He was a slender man in his
late thirties, this George Mason, not conspicuously
successful or brilliant, but a good executive--he ran
his office efficiently and well.
Abruptly
he turned and walked over to a massive safe set into the
far wall. He spun the dials, swung the heavy door
open. A light went on, revealing a vault of
polished steel as large as a small room. George
Mason carefully propped a chair against the open door of
the safe and stepped inside.
He took
three steps forward, tilting his head so that he could
see the square of white cardboard taped just above the
topmost row of strongboxes. George Mason stared at
those words, remembering. . . .
Exactly
one year ago he had entered this selfsame vault.
He had planned a rather expensive, if solitary, evening;
had decided he might need a little additional
cash. He had not bothered to prop the door;
ordinary friction held the balanced mass of metal in
place. But only that morning the people that
serviced the safe had cleaned and oiled it. And
then, behind George Mason's back, slowly, noiselessly,
the ponderous door swung shut. There was a click
of springlocks. The automatic light went out, and
he was trapped--entombed in the sudden and terrifying
dark.
Instantly,
panic seized him. He hurled himself at the
unyielding door. He gave a hoarse cry; the sound
was like an explosion in that confined place. In
the silence that followed, he heard the frantic thudding
of his heart. Through his mind flashed all the
stories he had heard of men found suffocated in time
vaults. No time clock controlled this mechanism;
the safe would remain locked until it was opened from
the outside. Tomorrow morning.
Then
the sickening realization struck him. No one would
come tomorrow morning--tomorrow was Christmas Day.
Once
more he flung himself at the door, shouting wildly,
beating with his hands until he sank to his knees
exhausted. Silence again, high-pitched, singing
silence that seemed deafening.
George
Mason was no smoker; he did not carry matches. Except
for the tiny luminous dial of his watch, the darkness
was absolute. The blackness almost had
texture: it was tangible, stifling. The time
was now 6:15. More than thirty-six hours would
pass before anyone entered the office. Thirty-six
hours in a steel box three feet wide, eight feet long,
seven feet high. Would the oxygen last, or. . .
Like a
flash of lightning a memory came to him, dim with the
passage of time. What had they told him when they
installed the safe? Something about a safety
measure for just such a crisis as this.
Breathing
heavily, he felt his way around the floor. The
palms of his hands were sweating. But in that far
right-hand corner, just above the floor, he found
it: a small, circular opening some two inches in
diameter. He thrust his finger into it and felt,
faint but unmistakable, a cool current of air.
The
tension release was so sudden that he burst into
tears. But at last he sat up. Surely he
would not have to stay trapped for the full thirty-six
hours. Somebody would miss him, would make
inquiries, would come to release him. . . .
But
who? He was unmarried and lived alone. The
maid who cleaned his apartment was just a servant; he
had always treated her as such. He had been
invited to spend Christmas Eve with his brother's
family, but children got on his nerves, and expected
presents.
A
friend had asked him to go to a home for elderly people
on Christmas Day and play the piano--George Mason was a
good musician. But he had made some excuse or
other; he had intended to sit at home, listening to some
new recordings he was giving himself for Christmas.
George
Mason dug his nails into the palms of his hands until
the pain balanced the misery in his mind. He had
thrown away his chances. Nobody would come and let
him out.
Marked
by the luminous hands of the watch, the leaden-footed
seconds ticked away. He slept a little, but not
much. He felt no hunger, but he was tormented by
thirst. Miserably the whole of Christmas Day went
by, and the succeeding night.
On the
morning after Christmas the head clerk came into the
office at the usual time. He opened the safe but
did not bother to swing the heavy door wide. Then
he went on into his private office.
No one
saw George Mason stagger out into the corridor, run to
the water cooler, and drink great gulps of water.
No one paid any attention to him as he descended to the
street and took a taxi home.
There
he shaved, changed his wrinkled clothes, ate some
breakfast and returned to his office, where his
employees greeted him pleasantly but casually.
On his
way to lunch that day he met several acquaintances, but
not a single one had noticed his Christmas
absence. He even met his own brother, who was a
member of the same luncheon club, but his brother failed
to ask if he had enjoyed Christmas.
Grimly,
inexorably, the truth closed in on George Mason.
He had vanished from human society during the great
festival of brotherhood and fellowship, and no one had
missed him at all.
Reluctantly,
almost with a sense of dread, George Mason began to
think about the true meaning of Christmas. Was it
possible that he had been blind all these years, blind
with selfishness, with indifference, with pride?
Wasn't Christmas the time when people went out of their
way to share with one another the joy of Christ's
birth? Wasn't giving, after all, the essence of
Christmas because it marked the time God gave his own
son to the world?
All
through the year that followed, with little hesitant
deeds of kindness, with small, unnoticed acts of
unselfishness, George Mason tried to prepare himself. .
. .
Now,
once more, it was Christmas Eve.
Slowly
he backed out of the safe, closed it. He touched
its grim steel face lightly, almost affectionately, as
if it were an old friend. He picked up his hat and
coat, and certain bundles. Then he left the
office, descended to the busy street.
There
he goes now in his black overcoat and hat, the same
George Mason as a year ago. Or is it? He
walks a few blocks, then flags a taxi, anxious not to be
late. His nephews are expecting him to help them
trim the tree. Afterwards, he is taking his
brother and sister-in-law to a Christmas play. Why
is he so inexpressibly happy? Why does this
jostling against others, laden as he is with bundles,
exhilarate and delight him?
Perhaps
the card has something to do with it, the card he taped
inside his office safe last New Year's Day. On the
card is written, in George Mason's own hand: To
love people, to be indispensable somewhere, that is the
purpose of life. That is the secret of happiness.
No
more lives torn apart
That wars would never start
And time would heal all hearts.
Everyone would have a friend
And right would always win
And love would never end.
This is my grown-up Christmas list.
David Foster and Linda
Thompson Jenner
How
Christmas Has Changed for Me
I think that it goes without saying that as we grow older,
Christmas changes significantly. It's no longer what it used
to be when we were kids, and for me I know that it isn't now even
what it was twenty years ago. There are many things
about it that stay the same, but all in all, it's a different
holiday for me these days than it ever has been before.
It's not just about gifts, for that's something that goes without
saying. When I was young, that's what Christmas was
about--what kinds of gifts I would get. It was a day of
receiving, with a little bit of giving thrown in for good
measure. As time went on that balance shifted so that the
giving became more and more prominent, eventually becoming much
more important than the getting. I still love receiving
gifts, but now it's more because they act as reminders of the
people who have given them to me than it is because I have more
material goods to take care of.
I think that the most important shift for me has been that
Christmas Day has become a day of reflection, of focusing on peace and joy and
hope. And that, of course, is the Christian message behind
the day--the birth of Jesus, who was to bring peace and joy and
hope to the world. But I have to say quite honestly that the
feelings I have don't follow the traditional Christian message,
for I find that message to be far too exclusive if it applies only
to
Christians. The message should be one to all human beings,
and that's the way I see it--we all are deserving of peace, hope
and joy in our lives no matter what our particular religious faith
may be. And I'm pretty sure that Jesus wouldn't disagree
with me.
But those are changes for me. There also seem to be broader
changes in the world around us. They have to do with us as
members of our society becoming more divided, more suspicious of
people of other faiths and cultures. As we do become more
divided, we're also becoming more likely to focus only on our
own--we seem to be losing the ability to reach out and embrace
people of different origins than ours. Christmas should be a
holiday of inclusion, but we seem to be pulling away from that
ideal..
I have absolutely no problem with people seeing Christmas as the
day they celebrate the birth of their savior (even though he
wasn't born in December, of course), but I start to have a problem
when the birth of that savior interferes with treating other
people well. There should be no mistaking that Jesus was a
loving man, one who spoke the truth as he saw it and loved the
poor, the destitute, and the broken. And his love didn't end
where his religion and heritage ended--a person didn't need to be Jewish to
receive his love and compassion. Whether one is Christian or
Buddhist or Hindu, one never should use one's religion as justification for
showing bias or prejudice, or for excluding others from one's love
and compassion.
And it seems that Christmas is becoming more and more exclusive,
limited more and more to our homes where we share gifts and a
meal, and expanded less and less into the communities in which we
live. We're more willing to share the spirit of the season
with those whom we love already, but seemingly more and more
fearful of sharing that spirit with strangers. This is a
change that's a shame, for Christmas has the potential to be the time of the year during which we show the most love and
compassion to others.
Part of this division seems to be happening
because more people feel that sharing Christmas has become
"politically incorrect"--there are many people who feel
a need to "take back" Christmas--but that's more a feeling that
justifies not sharing than a reality. Yes, there are more
groups making us aware that they don't have a Christmas tradition,
and more groups that are making us aware of their own holidays
that fall in the same season, but that's by no means a
justification for not sharing our own holiday with others.
If someone gets upset because you're sharing joy and hope, so
what? We used to have much thicker skins and to take things
much less personally, and we used to be much more resilient.
Let's not let the reactions of others change the ways that we act.
Because the fact is that Christmas is worth sharing. As an
adult, I now see Christmas as a beautiful chance to share and to
give. It's a chance to spread goodwill and not make others
suspicious of you for doing so--just try to do some of the giving
that you do in December, in July, and see how people react.
If Christmas is about love, then we can share our love. If
it's about hope, then the love that we share can be a sign of hope
for others. If it's about joy, then we can try to bring joy
into the lives of others, even if it's a small amount, and even if
it's not necessarily lasting--joy is something that comes from
inside, and what we can do is to give people a taste of it so that
they know it's possible.
Christmas is changing because our world--and our relationships
with our world--are changing. We do many things now and we
act now often out of fears that we didn't seem to have before,
fears that may be baseless, but that are nonetheless very
real. If Christmas is going to remain the celebration of
love and hope that it originally was, then it's important that we
make a conscious effort to keep it so in our lives, so that others
may see our examples and have the courage to do so
themselves. It's too beautiful a celebration to allow it to
die a slow and miserable death like so many other good things seem
to be doing these days.
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I
am not alone at all, I thought. I was
never alone at
all. And that, of course,
is the message of Christmas.
We are
never alone. Not when the night is darkest,
the wind
coldest, the word seemingly
most indifferent. For this is
still
the time God chooses.
Taylor
Caldwell
Facing
Christmas
Grace Noll Crowell
I
shall attend to my little errands of love
Early, this year,
So that the brief days before Christmas may
be
Unhampered and clear
Of the fever of hurry. The breathless
rushing
that I have known in the past
Shall not possess me. I shall be calm
in my soul
And ready at last
For Christmas: "The Mass of the
Christ."
I shall kneel and call out his
name;
I shall take time to watch the beautiful
light
Of a candle's flame;
I shall have leisure--I shall go out alone
From my roof and my door;
I shall not miss the silver silence of stars
As I have before;
And, oh, perhaps--If I stand there very
still,
And very long--
I shall hear what the clamor of living has
kept from me;
The Angels' song!
Christmas
is for children.
But it is for grown-ups too.
Even if it is a headache,
a chore, and nightmare,
it is a period of necessary
defrosting of chill
and hide-bound hearts.
Lenora
Mattingly Weber
Christmas is forever, not for just one day,
for loving, sharing, giving, are not to put away
like bells and lights and tinsel, in some box upon a shelf.
The good you do for others is good you do yourself.
How
can we best keep Christmas? How can we best defeat
the little bit of Scrooge in all of us and experience
the glory of the Great Day?
By
sinking the shafts of our spirits deep beneath the
sparkling tinsel of the surface of Christmas and
renewing within us the radiance of the inner meaning of
the season.
By
following the Star on an inward journey to Bethlehem to
stand again in awe and wonder before the Babe in a
Manger.
By
rediscovering the faith and simplicity of a little
child, for of such is the Kingdom of Heaven.
By
being still and listening to the angels sing within our
hearts.
By
quietly evaluating our lives according to the Master's
standards as set forth in the Sermon on the Mount.
By
reaffirming the supremacy of the spirit in man's
conquest of himself.
By
rededicating ourselves to the Master's ideals of Peace,
Brotherhood, and Good Will.
By
resolving to give ourselves away to others in love, joy
and devotion.
By
using the light of Christmas to guide us through the
darkness of the coming year, refusing to go back to the
dim kerosene lamps of the spirit when the brilliant
electricity of Christmas is available to show us the
way.
Christmas
is for love. It is for joy, for giving and sharing, for laughter,
for reuniting with family and friends, for tinsel and brightly
decorated packages. But mostly, Christmas is for love.
I had not
believed this until a small elf-like student with wide-eyed
innocent eyes and soft rosy cheeks gave me a wondrous gift one
Christmas.
Mark was an
11-year-old orphan who lived with his aunt, a bitter middle-aged
woman greatly annoyed with the burden of caring for her dead
sister's son. She never failed to remind young Mark, if it hadn't
been for her generosity, he would be a vagrant, homeless waif.
Still, with all the scolding and chilliness at home, he was a
sweet and gentle child.
I had not
noticed Mark particularly until he began staying after class each
day (at the risk of arousing his aunt's anger, I later found) to
help me straighten up the room. We did this quietly and
comfortably, not speaking much, but enjoying the solitude of that
hour of the day. When we did talk, Mark spoke mostly of his
mother. Though he was quite small when she died, he remembered a
kind, gentle, loving woman, who always spent much time with him.
As
Christmas drew near however, Mark failed to stay after school each
day. I looked forward to his coming, and when the days passed and
he continued to scamper hurriedly from the room after class, I
stopped him one afternoon and asked why he no longer helped me in
the room. I told him how I had missed him, and his large gray eyes
lit up eagerly as he replied, "Did you really miss me?"
I explained
how he had been my best helper. "I was making you a
surprise," he whispered confidentially. "It's for
Christmas." With that, he became embarrassed and dashed from
the room. He didn't stay after school any more after that.
Finally
came the last school day before Christmas. Mark crept slowly into
the room late that afternoon with his hands concealing something
behind his back. "I have your present," he said timidly
when I looked up. "I hope you like it." He held out his
hands, and there lying in his small palms was a tiny wooden box.
"Its
beautiful, Mark. Is there something in it?" I asked opening
the top to look inside. "
"Oh
you can't see what's in it," he replied, "and you can't
touch it, or taste it or feel it, but mother always said it makes
you feel good all the time, warm on cold nights, and safe when
you're all alone."
I gazed
into the empty box. "What is it Mark," I asked gently,
"that will make me feel so good?" "It's love,"
he whispered softly, "and mother always said it's best when
you give it away." And he turned and quietly left the room.
So now I
keep a small box crudely made of scraps of wood on the piano in my
living room and only smile as inquiring friends raise quizzical
eyebrows when I explain to them that there is love in it.
Yes,
Christmas is for gaiety, mirth and song, for good and wondrous
gifts. But mostly, Christmas is for love.