Good day, and welcome to our new Monday!  We're in the midst of an
important holiday season, and we'd like to share a bit of Christmas cheer
with you this week.  We hope that you're making your season bright,
and that you're able to make this holiday season your best ever!
   

The Gift
Rachel Naomi Remen

The Man Who Missed Christmas
J. Edgar Parks

How Christmas Has Changed for Me
tom walsh

Please feel free to contact us at admin at livinglifefully.com (no spaces,
replace "at" with @).
Living Life Fully home - e-zine archives
Daily Meditations

23 December 2024  

   

What if Christmas, perhaps, doesn't come from a store? What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more?    -Dr. Seuss

Christmas is not as much about opening our presents as opening our hearts.   -Janice Maeditere

Peace on earth will come to stay
When we live Christmas every day.    -Helen Steiner Rice

  

The Gift
Rachel Naomi Remen

Every Christmas Eve when I was small my father and I would take the subway to downtown Manhattan and go shopping for presents for my mother, my aunt, my friends, my teacher, and other important persons in my life.  These were special, even magical times.  Everything was decorated for Christmas.  The windows of the stores up and down Fifth Avenue were magnificent, and some even had whole mechanical villages that moved or a mechanical Santa that waved.  It was almost always cold, and the nighttime streets were crowded with smiling people carrying beautifully wrapped packages, the women in furs and the men in overcoats with velvet collars.  Thinking back on it now after more than fifty years, it seems to me that I could see the joy in people shining in the streets.  Christmas music poured out of every open doorway.  In my memory, it is always lightly snowing, and everyone had snowflakes on their coats and in their hair.


We would start at Rockefeller Plaza and stare in awe at the enormous, beautifully decorated tree, debating whether this year's decorations were more beautiful than last.  They always were.  We would watch the skaters for a while.  And the we would move slowly down Fifth Avenue, stopping in every store, thinking of the people I loved, one at a time, looking at many, many things until I found just the right one for each of them.

At some point during the evening, my father would hand me his big gold pocket watch and tell me that when it chimed I was to come and meet him right where we were standing, and then I would go off alone in whatever store we were in to find his present.  While I was gone, my father would do a little shopping of his own.

I got to stay up late, far later than my usual bedtime, and it was often close to midnight when we got home, our arms filled with boxes, each of which had been specially wrapped at the store.  My mother always had cocoa waiting, and we would show her the beautiful boxes and tell her about the wonderful things we had found for everyone--but not, of course, what we had found for her.

It was a chance to think about each one of my beloved people, who they were and what might make them glad.  I remember the indescribable feeling of finding each present and the joy of recognizing it as just the very thing.  There was much pleasure in choosing the paper and ribbon and watching it wrapped in a way that was as special as the person it was for.  I loved finding these presents.  It made me feel very lucky.

In thinking back, I realize that I never actually saw many of these presents opened.  They would be mailed away or left under other people's Christmas trees.  Somehow this never mattered.  The important moment wasn't in the opening, or in the thanking.  The important thing was the blessing of having someone to love.
   
A beautiful Christmas song:

   

    

    
The Man Who Missed Christmas
J. Edgar Parks

On Christmas Eve, as usual, George Mason was the last to leave the office.  He stood for a moment at the window, watching the hurrying crowds below, the strings of colored Christmas lights, the fat Santa Clauses on the street corners.  He was a slender man in his late thirties, this George Mason, not conspicuously successful or brilliant, but a good executive--he ran his office efficiently and well.

Abruptly he turned and walked over to a massive safe set into the far wall.  He spun the dials, swung the heavy door open.  A light went on, revealing a vault of polished steel as large as a small room.  George Mason carefully propped a chair against the open door of the safe and stepped inside.

He took three steps forward, tilting his head so that he could see the square of white cardboard taped just above the topmost row of strongboxes.  George Mason stared at those words, remembering. . . .

Exactly one year ago he had entered this selfsame vault.  He had planned a rather expensive, if solitary, evening; had decided he might need a little additional cash.  He had not bothered to prop the door; ordinary friction held the balanced mass of metal in place.  But only that morning the people that serviced the safe had cleaned and oiled it.  And then, behind George Mason's back, slowly, noiselessly, the ponderous door swung shut.  There was a click of springlocks.  The automatic light went out, and he was trapped--entombed in the sudden and terrifying dark.

Instantly, panic seized him.  He hurled himself at the unyielding door.  He gave a hoarse cry; the sound was like an explosion in that confined place.  In the silence that followed, he heard the frantic thudding of his heart.  Through his mind flashed all the stories he had heard of men found suffocated in time vaults.  No time clock controlled this mechanism; the safe would remain locked until it was opened from the outside.  Tomorrow morning.

Then the sickening realization struck him.  No one would come tomorrow morning--tomorrow was Christmas Day.

Once more he flung himself at the door, shouting wildly, beating with his hands until he sank to his knees exhausted.  Silence again, high-pitched, singing silence that seemed deafening.

George Mason was no smoker; he did not carry matches. Except for the tiny luminous dial of his watch, the darkness was absolute.  The blackness almost had texture:  it was tangible, stifling.  The time was now 6:15.  More than thirty-six hours would pass before anyone entered the office.  Thirty-six hours in a steel box three feet wide, eight feet long, seven feet high.  Would the oxygen last, or. . .

Like a flash of lightning a memory came to him, dim with the passage of time.  What had they told him when they installed the safe?  Something about a safety measure for just such a crisis as this.

Breathing heavily, he felt his way around the floor.  The palms of his hands were sweating.  But in that far right-hand corner, just above the floor, he found it:  a small, circular opening some two inches in diameter.  He thrust his finger into it and felt, faint but unmistakable, a cool current of air.

The tension release was so sudden that he burst into tears.  But at last he sat up.  Surely he would not have to stay trapped for the full thirty-six hours.  Somebody would miss him, would make inquiries, would come to release him. . . .

But who?  He was unmarried and lived alone.  The maid who cleaned his apartment was just a servant; he had always treated her as such.  He had been invited to spend Christmas Eve with his brother's family, but children got on his nerves, and expected presents.

A friend had asked him to go to a home for elderly people on Christmas Day and play the piano--George Mason was a good musician.  But he had made some excuse or other; he had intended to sit at home, listening to some new recordings he was giving himself for Christmas.

George Mason dug his nails into the palms of his hands until the pain balanced the misery in his mind.  He had thrown away his chances.  Nobody would come and let him out.

Marked by the luminous hands of the watch, the leaden-footed seconds ticked away.  He slept a little, but not much.  He felt no hunger, but he was tormented by thirst.  Miserably the whole of Christmas Day went by, and the succeeding night.

On the morning after Christmas the head clerk came into the office at the usual time.  He opened the safe but did not bother to swing the heavy door wide.  Then he went on into his private office.

No one saw George Mason stagger out into the corridor, run to the water cooler, and drink great gulps of water.  No one paid any attention to him as he descended to the street and took a taxi home.

There he shaved, changed his wrinkled clothes, ate some breakfast and returned to his office, where his employees greeted him pleasantly but casually.

On his way to lunch that day he met several acquaintances, but not a single one had noticed his Christmas absence.  He even met his own brother, who was a member of the same luncheon club, but his brother failed to ask if he had enjoyed Christmas.

Grimly, inexorably, the truth closed in on George Mason.  He had vanished from human society during the great festival of brotherhood and fellowship, and no one had missed him at all.

Reluctantly, almost with a sense of dread, George Mason began to think about the true meaning of Christmas.  Was it possible that he had been blind all these years, blind with selfishness, with indifference, with pride?  Wasn't Christmas the time when people went out of their way to share with one another the joy of Christ's birth?  Wasn't giving, after all, the essence of Christmas because it marked the time God gave his own son to the world?

All through the year that followed, with little hesitant deeds of kindness, with small, unnoticed acts of unselfishness, George Mason tried to prepare himself. . . .

Now, once more, it was Christmas Eve.

Slowly he backed out of the safe, closed it.  He touched its grim steel face lightly, almost affectionately, as if it were an old friend.  He picked up his hat and coat, and certain bundles.  Then he left the office, descended to the busy street.

There he goes now in his black overcoat and hat, the same George Mason as a year ago.  Or is it?  He walks a few blocks, then flags a taxi, anxious not to be late.  His nephews are expecting him to help them trim the tree.  Afterwards, he is taking his brother and sister-in-law to a Christmas play.  Why is he so inexpressibly happy?  Why does this jostling against others, laden as he is with bundles, exhilarate and delight him?

Perhaps the card has something to do with it, the card he taped inside his office safe last New Year's Day.  On the card is written, in George Mason's own hand:  To love people, to be indispensable somewhere, that is the purpose of life.  That is the secret of happiness.
   

   

No more lives torn apart
That wars would never start
And time would heal all hearts.
Everyone would have a friend
And right would always win
And love would never end.
This is my grown-up Christmas list.

David Foster and Linda Thompson Jenner

   

 

How Christmas Has Changed for Me

I think that it goes without saying that as we grow older, Christmas changes significantly.  It's no longer what it used to be when we were kids, and for me I know that it isn't now even what it was twenty years ago.  There are many things about it that stay the same, but all in all, it's a different holiday for me these days than it ever has been before.

It's not just about gifts, for that's something that goes without saying.  When I was young, that's what Christmas was about--what kinds of gifts I would get.  It was a day of receiving, with a little bit of giving thrown in for good measure.  As time went on that balance shifted so that the giving became more and more prominent, eventually becoming much more important than the getting.  I still love receiving gifts, but now it's more because they act as reminders of the people who have given them to me than it is because I have more material goods to take care of.

I think that the most important shift for me has been that Christmas Day has become a day of reflection, of focusing on peace and joy and hope.  And that, of course, is the Christian message behind the day--the birth of Jesus, who was to bring peace and joy and hope to the world.  But I have to say quite honestly that the feelings I have don't follow the traditional Christian message, for I find that message to be far too exclusive if it applies only to Christians.  The message should be one to all human beings, and that's the way I see it--we all are deserving of peace, hope and joy in our lives no matter what our particular religious faith may be.  And I'm pretty sure that Jesus wouldn't disagree with me.

But those are changes for me.  There also seem to be broader changes in the world around us.  They have to do with us as members of our society becoming more divided, more suspicious of people of other faiths and cultures.  As we do become more divided, we're also becoming more likely to focus only on our own--we seem to be losing the ability to reach out and embrace people of different origins than ours.  Christmas should be a holiday of inclusion, but we seem to be pulling away from that ideal..

I have absolutely no problem with people seeing Christmas as the day they celebrate the birth of their savior (even though he wasn't born in December, of course), but I start to have a problem when the birth of that savior interferes with treating other people well.  There should be no mistaking that Jesus was a loving man, one who spoke the truth as he saw it and loved the poor, the destitute, and the broken.  And his love didn't end where his religion and heritage ended--a person didn't need to be Jewish to receive his love and compassion.  Whether one is Christian or Buddhist or Hindu, one never should use one's religion as justification for showing bias or prejudice, or for excluding others from one's love and compassion.

And it seems that Christmas is becoming more and more exclusive, limited more and more to our homes where we share gifts and a meal, and expanded less and less into the communities in which we live.  We're more willing to share the spirit of the season with those whom we love already, but seemingly more and more fearful of sharing that spirit with strangers.  This is a change that's a shame, for Christmas has the potential to be the time of the year during which we show the most love and compassion to others.

Part of this division seems to be happening because more people feel that sharing Christmas has become "politically incorrect"--there are many people who feel a need to "take back" Christmas--but that's more a feeling that justifies not sharing than a reality.  Yes, there are more groups making us aware that they don't have a Christmas tradition, and more groups that are making us aware of their own holidays that fall in the same season, but that's by no means a justification for not sharing our own holiday with others.  If someone gets upset because you're sharing joy and hope, so what?  We used to have much thicker skins and to take things much less personally, and we used to be much more resilient.  Let's not let the reactions of others change the ways that we act.

Because the fact is that Christmas is worth sharing.  As an adult, I now see Christmas as a beautiful chance to share and to give.  It's a chance to spread goodwill and not make others suspicious of you for doing so--just try to do some of the giving that you do in December, in July, and see how people react.  If Christmas is about love, then we can share our love.  If it's about hope, then the love that we share can be a sign of hope for others.  If it's about joy, then we can try to bring joy into the lives of others, even if it's a small amount, and even if it's not necessarily lasting--joy is something that comes from inside, and what we can do is to give people a taste of it so that they know it's possible.

Christmas is changing because our world--and our relationships with our world--are changing.  We do many things now and we act now often out of fears that we didn't seem to have before, fears that may be baseless, but that are nonetheless very real.  If Christmas is going to remain the celebration of love and hope that it originally was, then it's important that we make a conscious effort to keep it so in our lives, so that others may see our examples and have the courage to do so themselves.  It's too beautiful a celebration to allow it to die a slow and miserable death like so many other good things seem to be doing these days.

  

more on Christmas

   
   

  

Living Life Fully, the e-zine
exists to try to provide for visitors of the world wide web a place
of growth, peace, inspiration, and encouragement.  Our articles
are presented as thoughts of the authors--by no means do we
mean to present them as ways that anyone has to live life.  Take
from them what you will, and disagree with whatever you disagree
with--just know that they'll be here for you each week.

  

We have some inspiring and motivational books that may interest you.  Our main way of supporting this site is through the sale of books, either physical copies or digital copies for your Amazon Kindle (including the online reader).  All of the money that we earn through them comes back to the site in one way or another.  Just click on the picture to the left to visit our page of books, both fiction and non-fiction!

  

   
tm

All contents © Living Life Fully, all rights reserved.

   

I am not alone at all, I thought.  I was
never alone at all.  And that, of course,
is the message of Christmas.  We are
never alone.  Not when the night is darkest,
the wind coldest, the word seemingly
most indifferent.  For this is still
the time God chooses.


Taylor Caldwell

  
Facing Christmas
Grace Noll Crowell

I shall attend to my little errands of love
Early, this year,
So that the brief days before Christmas may be
Unhampered and clear
Of the fever of hurry.  The breathless rushing
   that I have known in the past
Shall not possess me.  I shall be calm in my soul
And ready at last
For Christmas:  "The Mass of the Christ."
   I shall kneel and call out his name;
I shall take time to watch the beautiful light
Of a candle's flame;
I shall have leisure--I shall go out alone
From my roof and my door;
I shall not miss the silver silence of stars
As I have before;
And, oh, perhaps--If I stand there very still,
And very long--
I shall hear what the clamor of living has
   kept from me;
The Angels' song!

   

Christmas is for children.
But it is for grown-ups too. 
Even if it is a headache,
a chore, and nightmare,
it is a period of necessary
defrosting of chill
and hide-bound hearts.


Lenora Mattingly Weber

  
Christmas is forever, not for just one day,
for loving, sharing, giving, are not to put away
like bells and lights and tinsel, in some box upon a shelf.
The good you do for others is good you do yourself.

Norman W. Brooks
"Let Every Day Be Christmas"
   

            

and a bit extra, just because. . . .
  

The Art of Keeping Christmas
Wilferd A. Peterson

How can we best keep Christmas?  How can we best defeat the little bit of Scrooge in all of us and experience the glory of the Great Day?

By sinking the shafts of our spirits deep beneath the sparkling tinsel of the surface of Christmas and renewing within us the radiance of the inner meaning of the season.

By following the Star on an inward journey to Bethlehem to stand again in awe and wonder before the Babe in a Manger.

By rediscovering the faith and simplicity of a little child, for of such is the Kingdom of Heaven.

By being still and listening to the angels sing within our hearts.

By quietly evaluating our lives according to the Master's standards as set forth in the Sermon on the Mount.

By reaffirming the supremacy of the spirit in man's conquest of himself.

By rededicating ourselves to the Master's ideals of Peace, Brotherhood, and Good Will.

By resolving to give ourselves away to others in love, joy and devotion.

By using the light of Christmas to guide us through the darkness of the coming year, refusing to go back to the dim kerosene lamps of the spirit when the brilliant electricity of Christmas is available to show us the way. 

      

Christmas Is for Love
unattributed

Christmas is for love.  It is for joy, for giving and sharing, for laughter, for reuniting with family and friends, for tinsel and brightly decorated packages.  But mostly, Christmas is for love.  I had not believed this until a small elf-like student with wide-eyed innocent eyes and soft rosy cheeks gave me a wondrous gift one Christmas.

Mark was an 11-year-old orphan who lived with his aunt, a bitter middle-aged woman greatly annoyed with the burden of caring for her dead sister's son.  She never failed to remind young Mark, if it hadn't been for her generosity, he would be a vagrant, homeless waif.  Still, with all the scolding and chilliness at home, he was a sweet and gentle child.

I had not noticed Mark particularly until he began staying after class each day (at the risk of arousing his aunt's anger, I later found) to help me straighten up the room.  We did this quietly and comfortably, not speaking much, but enjoying the solitude of that hour of the day.  When we did talk, Mark spoke mostly of his mother.  Though he was quite small when she died, he remembered a kind, gentle, loving woman, who always spent much time with him.

As Christmas drew near however, Mark failed to stay after school each day.  I looked forward to his coming, and when the days passed and he continued to scamper hurriedly from the room after class, I stopped him one afternoon and asked why he no longer helped me in the room.  I told him how I had missed him, and his large gray eyes lit up eagerly as he replied, "Did you really miss me?"

I explained how he had been my best helper.  "I was making you a surprise," he whispered confidentially.  "It's for Christmas."  With that, he became embarrassed and dashed from the room.  He didn't stay after school any more after that.

Finally came the last school day before Christmas.  Mark crept slowly into the room late that afternoon with his hands concealing something behind his back.  "I have your present," he said timidly when I looked up.  "I hope you like it."  He held out his hands, and there lying in his small palms was a tiny wooden box.

"Its beautiful, Mark.  Is there something in it?"  I asked opening the top to look inside. "

"Oh you can't see what's in it," he replied, "and you can't touch it, or taste it or feel it, but mother always said it makes you feel good all the time, warm on cold nights, and safe when you're all alone."

I gazed into the empty box.  "What is it Mark," I asked gently, "that will make me feel so good?"  "It's love," he whispered softly, "and mother always said it's best when you give it away."  And he turned and quietly left the room.

So now I keep a small box crudely made of scraps of wood on the piano in my living room and only smile as inquiring friends raise quizzical eyebrows when I explain to them that there is love in it.

Yes, Christmas is for gaiety, mirth and song, for good and wondrous gifts. But mostly, Christmas is for love.