what accomplishments you achieve, somebody helps you.
don't know who we are until
we see what we can do.
Love. . . Leo
would like to talk to you about something really important to
me. I'm constantly meeting people and working with
people. And I'm becoming so very concerned because the
people I meet are so wonderful and so beautiful, and yet they
are afraid to show their wonder and show their beauty.
They are in constant doubt about being beautiful and
wonderful. If there is to be any hope for us as lovers,
we've got to make sure to express this love and this caring and
bring it out into the open and not be afraid.
tonight, I would like to talk to those people who aren't sure
yet and are a little bit reticent about being all that they are.
amazing--you may not realize it, but so much of what you are not
is because you are literally standing in your own way of
becoming. And what I'm going to talk to you about tonight
is, get the hell out of your way! Fly, because it's all
available to you! And all you have to do is take the
responsibility and do it. But so many people don't trust
themselves. They don't even like themselves.
I was in
the office recently--many of you know that I have a lot of
things in my classes that are voluntarily mandatory. And
one of the things that is voluntarily mandatory is that
everybody come to visit me. Now, that isn't asking too
much, and I get frightened people who com in all trembling.
I had this
lovely girl who sat across from me, and I said, "Tell me
about yourself. We're going to be together for 16 weeks in
classes, and I don't want you to be a stranger. You tell me
about you, and then I'll take over and tell you about me."
said, "I don't have anything to say."
"What do you mean? Tell me about all your wonder."
"Wonder?!" And then there was a long pause, and
she said, "Well, I'm too short."
never occurred to me until she told me. And then I thought,
well, I'll counteract with something good. I said,
"Yes, but you're a darn good student. Do you know that
you got an A on your mid-term?"
said, "Sheer luck."
How do you
"But you know that you're unique in all the world. . .
me. I'm not unique," she said. "And besides,
I'm not very good-looking, and not a lot of people seek me
out. And I'm lonely a lot of the time."
to me that if she really believes that she's short and ugly and
stupid and has nothing to contribute, why would anybody seek her
out? Oh, did I work on that one!
walked out, she was four inches taller. And if I ever see
her lean over again, there's going to be hell to pay.
says a wonderful thing. He says, "My life seems like
one long obstacle course, with me as the chief obstacle."
love to mention the book Souls on Fire by Elie Wiesel.
It's a beautiful book, and he makes a statement I really
love. He says that when you die and you go to meet your
Maker, you're not going to be asked why you didn't become a
messiah or find a cure for cancer. All you're going to be
asked is, why didn't you become you? Why didn't you become
all that you are?
no two people in this audience who are alike. Isn't that a
message to tell you--that you are unique and you have something to
say? And isn't it a message that you have a right to say it
before you leave the face of the earth?
have you heard yourself say, "I'm nothing"? You're
nothing if you think you're nothing. . . .
You are a
miracle. You have something to share that nobody else in the
world has. To keep that hidden because of self-defeating
ideas is to die less than you are. Don't let that
happen. Your greatest responsibility is to become everything
that you are, not only for your benefit but for mine.
is not a time of life; it is a state of mind;
it is not a matter
of rosy cheeks, red lips and supple knees; it is a matter of
the will, a quality of the imagination, a vigor of the emotions;
it is the freshness of the deep springs of life.
Youth means a temperamental predominance of courage
timidity of the appetite, for adventure over the love of ease.
This often exists in a man of sixty more than a body of twenty. Nobody grows old merely by a number of years.
We grow old by deserting our ideals.
Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up
wrinkles the soul. Worry, fear, self-distrust bows the
heart and turns the spirit back to dust.
Whether sixty or sixteen, there is in every human
heart the lure of wonder, the unfailing child-like appetite of
what's next, and the joy of the game of living. In the center
of your heart and my heart there is a wireless station; so long
as it receives messages of beauty, hope, cheer, courage and
power from men and from the Infinite, so long are you young.
When the aerials are down, and your spirit is
snows of cynicism and the ice of pessimism, then you are grown
old, even at twenty, but as long as your aerials are up, to catch the
waves of optimism, there is hope you may die young at eighty.
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|The Communication Principle
The communication principle is, "Be clear, concise,
open, and honest."
Communication is an art. I have seen some great
communicators at work. These are some of the lessons I
Let others talk.
Give honest and sincere compliments.
Be more ready to compliment than to criticize.
Make a point to remember people's names; it is music to
Never be afraid to seek advice.
Never criticize someone in front of other people.
Be aware of other people's desires.
Find joy and pleasure through taking an interest in
Talk about yourself only if asked.
Smile--it is contagious and opens people's hearts.
Learn to listen.
Remember people's birthdays and anniversaries--it shows
Encourage people to share about themselves.
Engage people where they are--talk in relation to their
Help other people to discover their uniqueness, to feel
special and important, without patronizing them.
Respect other people's opinions.
Admit when you are wrong.
Be kind and friendly to every person you meet.
Ask questions people respond to positively.
Encourage other people in their dreams--particularly
Try to see it from the other person's point of view.
Hold up ideals.
Challenge people gently.
Talk about your own failures.
Appeal to higher motives.
Always look for yourself in others and others in
yourself--it affirms the oneness of the human family.
Affirm the highest values of the human spirit.
Never pass up an opportunity to speak a kind word of
appreciation. There are six billion people on the
planet, and 5.9 billion of them go to bed every night
starving for one honest word of appreciation.
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by choosing a central purpose and becoming "the best
version of yourself." Kelly makes thoughtful
distinctions. He contrasts the difference between
doing and having, the legitimate need for health and
happiness with the illegitimate desire for expensive toys
and the pursuit of minimalism vs. excellence. Then
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meaning, three instruments for anchoring your life and ten
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Eyes Wide Open
The Sacrifice of Compromise and
I get very scared these days when I see the news and the
headlines that concern our politicians these days. I
get afraid because it seems that we're witnessing the death
of two concepts that have been extremely important in the
creation and maintenance of one of the greatest countries in
the world, a country that for years has provided millions of
people with hope for better lives, better living conditions,
better futures for themselves and children. It seems
that we've lost our way, and that we're no longer focused on
working together to make the experiment that it our country
work--rather, we're now focused on trying to make happen
just what we think should happen, and using any means
available to make sure that people who think different than
we do are not able to fulfill their agendas.
This is especially true in politics, where Republicans
and Democrats are so concerned about their party lines that
they no longer seem to pay attention at all to the needs of
their constituents, the people who elected them into
office. If I'm a Republican senator and eighty percent
of the people in my state need something done, I'll get that
something done only if it fits into the Republican
agenda. So what if tons of people are
unemployed? If my party's against a particular plan to
fight unemployment, I'll be against it simply because my
party is, not because I've studied the plan and find it to
be detrimental to my constituents. If I'm a Democrat
and it looks like certain tax cuts may help my people, I'll
still vote against them if my party is against them.
There are far too few people thinking for themselves
these days. I suppose that this is an inevitable
result of the many years we've spent watching television and
having our ideas and opinions fed to us by editorialists and
other media people. Unfortunately, though, the people
who now are in charge of very important elements of our
country seem to be unwilling or unable to think critically
and search out the best options for the people they
represent--instead, they pursue their own best interests and
the perpetuation of their own careers over the welfare and
well-being of the majority.
Far too often, it seems, it comes down to numbers.
If 54% of the people in my district are Republican, then I
should be able to ensure re-election by voting a straight
Republican ticket while I'm in office. And if there's
a danger that I won't be re-elected, then I'll do my best to
have my district re-drawn so that the percentage of people
who will support me will be greater.
The part that concerns me is that the voice of the common
person no longer matters in this type of atmosphere.
If I send a letter to a senator or congressman about a
certain issue, I'll really have no chance of convincing him
or her to look at an issue objectively if that person's
party already has taken a stand on the issue. He or
she will vote the party line in order to strengthen his or
her own position in the party.
Throughout the history of this country, compromise and
cooperation have been the hallmarks of our structure.
We've worked together no matter what our personal beliefs or
attitudes because we've recognized something much more
important exists: the common good. The common
good can be served only by people who value other people and
other people's opinions, and who vote with their consciences
and objectively review any issue before actually voting on
it, to be sure that they're voting for that greater good,
and not for their own personal gain.
It frightens me when personal gain is the main criterion
for voting a certain way. It frightens me because the
common good no longer matters, and it frightens me because
of the lessons that we're teaching our children. We
teach them in school to be cooperative and to help each
other out, yet we model for them a system that shows no
value at all of compromise.
I'm not a big fan of Arnold Schwarzenegger, but he
recently said something that I admire--he berated his fellow
Republicans for attacking our president in order to make
themselves look better, and called them hypocrites for
saying that Obama's stimulus plans have created no jobs,
while posing for photos with people who have had jobs
created through those plans. His main message was
this--whether Democrat or Republican, we all should be
helping the president to fix problems in the country, not
attacking each other to try to make ourselves look better.
It seems that Scott Brown, a newly-elected Senator, is
one of the few who take this idea to heart. CNN
writes, "Throughout his campaign to replace the late
Sen. Ted Kennedy in the Senate, Brown indicated that he was
an independent thinker whose main task was to represent the
people of Massachusetts -- and not get involved in
congressional politics." One of his first actions
in the Senate was to vote for a bill backed by Democrats,
and many of his fellow Republicans lost no time in attacking
him for doing so, simply because they expected him to oppose
anything supported by any Democrats. In other words,
once you get elected and come to Washington, you're not
expected to think for yourself any more. And that's a
very dangerous way of looking at the world.
I seriously hope that we're able to embrace compromise
and cooperation as a people once again, one day. Life
is about helping each other, working together to achieve
goals, no matter what our races, creeds, beliefs, or
affiliations. If we continue to fight each other all
the time in order to try to improve our own standing, then
just who are we helping? We certainly aren't
contributing to the greater good as most of us know it.
finest test of character is seen in the amount and the power of
gratitude we have.
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I had a formula for bypassing
trouble, I would not pass it round.
Trouble creates a capacity to handle
it. I don't embrace trouble; that's
as bad as treating it as an enemy.
But I do say meet it as a friend, for
you'll see a lot of it and had better
be on speaking terms with it.
Arrow and the Song
shot an arrow into the air,
It fell to earth, I knew not where;
For, so swiftly as it flew, the sight
Could not follow it in its flight.
breathed a song into the air,
It fell to earth, I knew not where;
For who has sight so keen and strong,
That it can follow the flight of song?
long afterward, in an oak
I found the arrow, still unbroke;
And the song, from beginning to end,
I found again in the heart of a friend.