grateful that I was too poor to get to art school
was 21. . . . I was old enough when I got there
how to get something out of it.
we express our gratitude, we must never forget that
the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but
to live by them.
who never sacrificed a present to a future good,
or a personal to a
general one, can speak of happiness
only as the blind do of colors.
Judgment is the gateway skill of the Power Zone. This
choice will help get you out of the Fear Zone, where you most
likely ended up after making some sort of negative
judgment. Suspending Judgment opens up other possibilities
and saves you a huge amount of upset and stress. . . . No matter
how dire a situation appears, if you resist the urge to attach
too quickly to a position, you allow for the possibility that it
might not be so bad and that perhaps even good things may
you have to find a new day-care provider and feel upset about
this change for your child, only to find that you're both
thrilled with the new situation. Or maybe you've faced an
involuntary reorganization or job transfer that turned out
better than you could have imagined. A friend of mine in
California was once laid off from a software company and doubled
her income two years later in a position she probably never
would have looked for if her first job had continued.
more you Suspend Judgment, the more peaceful your life will
become. You'll feel much more philosophical and less
emotionally addicted to life's normal ups and downs. This
is not to be confused with losing your edge. In fact,
you'll be working the exponentially powerful Energy Edge,
because you'll be able to think more clearly, with less
emotional charge. By Suspending Judgment you move to a
higher frequency, where every action has more power, and you
will directly benefit from the Energy Edge.
unclouded by fear and upset and will move toward gaining new
wisdom. You'll enjoy life more when you Suspend Judgment
because you won't be limited by all your opinions. You'll
also waste less energy becoming upset. Often people become
very angry and direct a lot of energy toward judging when the real
story turns out to be completely different from what they imagine
Judgment is perhaps the most important high-energy choice because
it opens the door to possibilities you can't imagine.
Suspending Judgment stops a downward spiral before it begins and
allows you to make more powerful, and less obvious, choices.
You'll tap into the Field and experience frequent creative
breakthroughs, better one-on-one relationships, and less
negativity in your life. Your broader perspective will give
you better balance. Both on and off the job, your actions
will be congruent with your intentions. As a result, you
will feel more energy at the end of the day and be far less likely
to burn out.
Suspend Judgment, you allow for many options you haven't even
considered. Let go of all your ideas about life as usual and
open yourself to a new perspective, at home and at work.
Detaching but still participating, you'll know when to put your
mind in neutral instead of pressing the gas and throwing it into
Way of Doing
usual for most of us includes opinions about those we encounter
and interpretations of events that stay fixed in our minds.
When you make a judgment, you unconsciously set into motion a
certain chain of events. You tap into the Field without even
realizing it, sending your energy into directions you may not
actually want them to go in. A conclusion means an end
point. No more processing. No more possibility.
Once you make a judgment, you become attached to a certain
approach, limiting the possible results. Things aren't
always what they seem, and when you lock into one point of view,
you close the door to other opportunities.
jump to conclusions, charging full speed ahead and inventing more
rules and regulations, all based on control, then you're making
have power. Too often, people make the wrong choices
and end up feeling victimized, unaware that deep within
lies the power to control their own destiny. Brenda
Anderson defines ten "energetic choices," or
approaches to life, ranging from "black hole"
and "head tripping" to "suspending
judgment" and "lightening up." She
shows readers how to make positive changes in their own
life approach, changes that allow them to tap into the
transformative power of The Field, the universal force
that connects everything and everyone.
Things to Enjoy at Any Age
Louise Morganti Kaelin
No matter how old we are, there are several
things that we get to enjoy. It is this enjoyment
that is the key to a happy life. If you can
appreciate the following, you'll be set for life!
Whether its sunny, cloudy, rainy, snowy, extremely
hot or extremely cold, every morning that we wake up
and can be grateful for another day is a good day!
These mornings become sweeter as we grow older, and
therefore probably elicit more appreciation.
Over and beyond being grateful for waking up this
morning, the weather outside is something to enjoy.
Interestingly enough, it's not necessary for the day
to be sunny, with blue skies and a nice little
breeze to be beautiful. In fact, when everyday is
sunny, it gets kind of boring. Having lived in New
England for 30 years, I know the truth of "If
you don't like the weather here, just wait 10
minutes and it will change". To me, that's the
most perfect weather of all, when it changes
frequently and I get to experience a ton of
different atmospheric conditions.
While we might not always enjoy our family when we
are younger, most adults enjoy their family
relationships. Whether it's our birth family or our
own family, there are many experiences we can share
only with those closest to us. To paraphrase an old
proverb, "No man is a hero to his family".
This is an added benefit as we can 'be ourselves'
with family as we can't be with anyone else.
Most of us have communities of varying sizes.
Because it is a personal preference, it may be one
or two very close friends up to large numbers of
groups we surround ourselves with. It all depends on
where we feel comfortable. The important thing is to
enjoy whatever relationships we have. If we don't,
the best gift we can give ourselves is to let go of
non-productive or constantly negative relationships.
Sense of humor
A sense of humor is something we all have, although
there is quite a range in exactly what that means to
each of us. Again, the important thing is to have
opportunities to laugh, chuckle, howl, grin or smile
on a regular basis.
A deep relationship with God
Our spiritual life is an important piece of our
daily enjoyment. Again, I don't believe there is a
'right' religion or spiritual practice, as long as
you have some deep bond with a source bigger and/or
greater than yourself.
The drama of life
Being able to take several steps back and look at
life as an uninterested bystander has its perks.
Seeing the big picture allows one to realize how
human nature works and to notice repeatable
patterns. It's another great way to stand back and
enjoy the drama that we call life.
As many say, "without your health, you have
nothing". Do what you need to do so that you
can enjoy your life with the energy and vitality
that keeps it that way!
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Louise Morganti Kaelin, all rights reserved.
Louise Morganti Kaelin is a Life Success Coach who
partners with others to help them turn their dreams
into reality. Phone:
1-484-660-3143 Web: www.touchpointcoaching.com
|We use odd expressions to talk about patience that
make it sound like a quantifiable,
storable commodity like olive
oil, gasoline, or money in the bank: "I'm getting low
on patience." "My patience is coming to an end." "I am about to run out of
. . I don't think we have an internal reservoir in which we store
up Patience for a
time when we'll need it. I think it's more
like the energy-saving water heater I have
at my house.
There is no holding tank of hot water. The heater clicks on when I turn
the hot water tap on, and the cold water flowing
through it gets heated en route to
the shower. It keeps on
heating water as long as I'm using it, and then it clicks off
again. I don't need hot water in the middle of the night
while I'm sleeping,
and I don't need Patience then, either.
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|Eyes Wide Open
always admired farmers and their perspectives on
life. I've noticed that because they have to
be very much in tune with the cycles of the seasons,
they also tend to be in tune with the cycles of
life, the ways that things change regularly and need
to be accepted for what they are, when they
are. There are times in life when it's
important to sow the seeds, or the growing season
will be missed and the harvest will come too late,
and possibly be destroyed by frost. There are
times when we have to be patient and let the crops
grow, tending to them and giving them water and
nutrients, but letting them do their thing without
trying to force it. And then there's time for
harvest. The crop is ready to be used, and
it's important to gather it at the right time if it
really is to be useful. In the north, that
usually happens in the fall, and then it's time to
let winter take over, and move to tasks other than
sowing and reaping.
of the concepts that I find most fascinating about
farming, though, is the idea of crop rotation, and
even of letting land lie fallow for a season.
Inherent in this idea is the reality that the soil
needs to work with different kinds of plants if it's
to maintain its vigor and even its basic ability to
supply nutrients to the plants that are growing in
it. A crop such as rice will drain the soil of
certain nutrients during its growing season, and if
the farmer plants rice there again next season, the
plants will drain even more of those nutrients from
on the other hand, the farmer plants a crop such as
cotton, the cotton will use different nutrients,
while replacing the nutrients that had been drained
by the rice.
often, the farmer will let a certain patch of land
lie fallow, or unused, for an entire season.
The farmer knows that the money that he or she could
earn from that land isn't as valuable as allowing
the land to regenerate itself, to build up nutrients
without being drained further.
found in my life that it's important to stay dynamic
if I want to keep growing and learning. Many
people are comfortable with staying at the same work
for their entire lives, doing the same job each day,
and to them I send my blessings--and in many ways I
envy and admire them. That kind of stability
can bring a lot of good things to life.
the other hand, I know that by changing what I do
from time to time, I learn more about life and
living and other people because I'm exposed to many
more ideas of how things should be; I work with
people who have taken different paths in life, and
who see the world in very divergent ways. When
I was in the Army, for example, I worked with people
who had very different ways of looking at the world
than did the people with whom I taught at
colleges. Since I've been teaching at the high
school level, I've been working with completely
different groups of people, and learning from and
about students who are much younger--but who have
fascinating ideas about life and living--than did my
students at college.
don't have to change careers or move to new places
in order to rotate what goes on in our lives.
Perhaps it's time to spend a season reading in the
evenings instead of watching television. Maybe
it would do us good to join a club that focuses on
something that's always interested us, but which we
haven't explored yet. We could even attend
another church for a few weeks, to get a different
set of views on how things are and how they could
know that as a teacher, the summer break is
invaluable because of the burnout that takes place
over the course of the school year. During
that time, I leave behind teaching and try to focus
entirely on other things. The rejuvenates and
re-energizes me, and allows me to begin again fairly
fresh when school starts up again. During the
summer, the part of my brain that works on teaching
lies fallow, and I don't try to make it do any work
so that it can recover from the school year.
Then, when the new school year begins, it's ready to
start all over again.
of the most important things to remember, though, is
that everything must have its season of growth,
too. A farmer isn't going to sow corn and then
try to harvest it three days later. Likewise,
we can't just jump from thing to thing, place to
place, and expect to get anything out of the
experiences. There are times when we must
simply stay where we are, as we are, and allow
ourselves to grow. Our trials are our
rainstorms and our winds and our frosts, our
challenges are our times of drought, our obstacles
are similar to the weeds and insects that like to
feed on plants. We, though, have much stronger
defenses than plants do against the things that
threaten us, and it's important to use those
principle illustrates why vacations are so important
to us, but also why so many people don't benefit a
bit from the time they take "off."
With the Internet and cell phones so dominant in our
lives, many people these days take vacations in name
only; they tend to bring their jobs with them and
don't allow their minds to focus on other
things. They're still worried about earnings
and contracts and other people's performances when
they should be worried about what they want for
dinner after they take the nice long walk on the
beach or through the forest.
a runner, I know that one of the best things I can
do to improve my race times is to take a day off
from running a few days before the race. My
body appreciates the rest, and the muscles recover
and allow me to perform at the peak of my abilities
only going to help ourselves if we create fallow
areas in our lives, places and times when we allow
ourselves to escape from our normal tasks and
challenges, when we can relax and let our bodies and
minds and emotions recover. We'll be much
better in all ways, then, when we get back to work,
and the work we do will be of much higher
quality. And that can be quite important to
all of us.
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the Small Things
Some of my sisters work in Australia. On a
reservation, among the Aborigines,
there was an elderly man. I can assure you that you
have never seen
a situation as difficult as that poor old man's. He
was completely ignored
by everyone. His home was disordered and dirty.
told him, "Please, let me clean your house, wash your
make your bed." He answered, "I'm okay like
this. Let it be."
said again, "You will be better still if you allow me
to do it."
finally agreed. So I was able to clean his house and
wash his clothes.
I discovered a beautiful lamp, covered with dust. Only
how many years had passed since he last lit it.
said to him, "Don't you light your lamp? Don't
you ever use it?"
answered, "No. No one comes to see me.
I have no need to light it. Who would I light it
asked, "Would you light it every night if the sisters
replied, "Of course."
that day on the sisters committed themselves to seeing him
every evening. We cleaned the lamp, and the sisters
would light it
years passed. I had completely forgotten that
man. He sent
this message: "Tell my friend that the light she
lit in my life
continues to shine still."
thought it was a very small thing.
We often neglect small things.