October 6, 2009

   
We are all beginners, and indeed the hopefulness of life is in realizing that there are such vistas of unending possibilities before us, that however far we go we shall always be on the threshold of something greater.

T. Troward

For peace of mind, resign as
general manager of the universe.

Larry Eisenberg

Solitude is the furnace of transformation. Without solitude we remain victims of society and continue to be entangled in the illusions of the false self.

Henri Nouwen

  

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Stop, Look, and Listen
Leslie Levine

Tremendously Rewarding Habits
Steve Brunkhorst

The Attitudes of Success and Happiness    Helaine Iris

No Future in the Past
Steve Goodier

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Stop, Look, and Listen
Leslie Levine

On the afternoon of her fortieth birthday, I called a friend to wish her well.  I asked about her plans for the rest of the day and learned that a celebration had already taken place.  In the morning, my friend, her two sisters, and her husband had risen high into the Kentucky sky in a hot-air balloon.  "What was it like?" I asked.  "Well, I don't know if I can explain it," she said.  "I was so focused on the moment, when it was actually happening."

What I learned from my friend that morning is that sometimes, to be in the moment, you must surrender to it completely.  That's not to say you won't remember it later, though you may forfeit the chance to put the moment into words.  And although I couldn't say exactly what my pal experienced that morning, I heard the thrill and awe in her voice.

To truly be present, one must live inside the moment and experience it for its own sake.  If you live outside the moment--observing and explaining--you're no longer absorbing and feeling.  The moment breaks apart and eventually disappears.  Think of a movie.  Sometimes it's impossible to explain what you've seen.  On another level, though, one you can't necessarily pinpoint, you know that once you begin dissecting your experience, you take away from it as well.

When you live inside the moment, you break ties with the past and the future.  You put aside yesterday's regrets and shelve the fears of tomorrow, because ultimately these moments have minds of their own.  And like sand through your fingertips, moments can't be held for long.  Even if you only have them by a thread, your moments are worth holding on to, especially when you put them all together.  After all, isn't a succession of moments what our lives are all about?

As hard as we try to hold onto our moments--recognizing and honoring them-- it's still tempting, habitual really, to let them go, to minimize their presence.  Instead of collecting them, we scatter our moments like marbles that roll in every direction.  It reminds me of that old game, Hot Potato.  Get rid of it, quick!  It's as if we don't know what to do with the moment, as if we really have to do something with it.

Perhaps our penchant for minimizing the moment has something to do with waiting.  As children, many of us learned exceedingly well how to wait.  Wait until you're older, wait until you're bigger, wait until you finish your homework, wait until after school, wait until after dinner.  We were told to wait a lot.  So we waited, and instead of enjoying the moment, we focused on what we were waiting for.  It's not surprising then that we tend to downgrade the moment or miss it altogether.

As I get older, the moment has become increasingly more important.  When I yield to the moment, I stop fretting and worrying about the future.  I stop guessing at what may happen and, instead, pay attention to what's right before my eyes.  Sometimes the moment exhilarates like a bright and unexpected shooting star.  Other times, the moment is painful, as if I'm getting poked repeatedly in the side.

A few years ago, I sat on my son's bedroom floor folding some baby clothes that he'd outgrown.  I could feel the sadness and regret creeping in, but I wanted so badly to feel OK about the passage of time.  I quickened my pace to push the pain away.  I wanted the moment to be over.  Suddenly, though, I looked up and noticed a very blue sky staring down through the window.  Just feel it, I said to myself, as I slowed down, trying to focus on the task in front of me.  I held a shirt close to my face and inhaled as deeply as I could.  My heart seemed to crack and fill up at the same time as feelings of hope and loss collided right there in a pile of little boy's old clothes.  When I finally got up to leave the room, I wasn't sad anymore.  Instead, I thought about the miraculous growth of a child, whose shirt size is less about loss and more about the gift of life itself.

I don't know if you can live inside each and every moment.  But when you can, try to stop, look, and listen long enough to be right where you are, not in your past, not in your future.  Just right in the middle of a split second in time.
       
   

Ice Cream for Breakfast
helps readers capture
those moments of self-indulgence
that are often gained through
appreciating life's smallest
pleasures. From enjoying a
big bowl of Rocky Road
for breakfast to reveling in
the beauty of your toes,
52 short essays reveal the
simple truth: you really
have to take care of
yourself if you're going to
take care of others.

   
   

   

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Tremendously Rewarding Habits
Steve Brunkhorst

Positive habits bring the tremendous rewards of success, joy, and lasting fulfillment. Here are seven habits that I believe are very important for living joyfully and successfully:

Gratitude. . . offering a simple and sincere "Thank you" when someone is helpful or shows a kindness, and offering daily prayers of gratitude for all blessings.

Reliability and trustworthiness. . . taking personal responsibility to keep one's agreements, even if it takes longer than anticipated.

Persistence and tenacity. .  taking measured risks, surmounting obstacles, and with patience, completing worthwhile missions that fulfill one's purpose.

Encouragement. . . showing appreciation and support for the talents, dreams, efforts, and accomplishments of others.

Compassion. . . doing what is possible to alleviate human suffering, treating other members of our human family with love, generosity, and forgiveness.

Cooperation. . . welcoming necessary changes, negotiating and resolving differences in ways that achieve common goals, communicate goodwill, show strength of character, and foster supportive alliances.

Continuous learning. . . gaining new skills, recording experiences, and learning from both desirable and undesirable events to create clearer maps for future progress.

John Dryden wisely wrote, "We first make our habits, and then our habits make us." So adopting new habits begins with a decision--a commitment to take actions that will align with one's values and goals.

Consider the questions below. Your answers will create a valuable "habit list" to review and update from time to time:

What habits have consistently brought rewards to your personal life or career? What rewards did they bring?  What habits could you adopt today that could have a positive impact on your future? What are the rewards you will expect to receive?

May your life, today and in the future, be filled with all the rewards that you desire.


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The Attitudes Of Success And Happiness
Helaine Iris

“Success is getting what you want;
happiness is wanting what you get.”
Author Unknown

This quote struck me. As a business and life coach, I work with people every day who are striving to be - do - or have something in their lives. Be it a successful business, a life that is less stressed, or a more satisfying career, everyone wants the same thing at the core – to feel successful and to be happy.

It sounds easy to attain but we all know it’s not. There are many fine formulas for success and happiness out there. You’ve probably tried many self-help or business improvement programs and know they would work if you consistently practiced and skillfully applied them.

But in my experience. it takes something else to truly experience deep, enduring success and happiness.  It takes simple yet profound attitude shifts.  Attitude shifts, when adopted and practiced, can and will change the fundamental nature of your being.

I offer you the following back–to-basics Attitudes Of Success and Happiness. Consider adopting them and see if you notice a change in the quality of your life and business.

The Attitude of Gratitude

Gratitude is appreciation and thankfulness.  Do you remember the last time you stopped for a moment simply to acknowledge all the good things in your life?  When you’re focused on the big picture, or caught up in day-to-day living, it’s hard to remember to take a step back and count your blessings.

Having a positive, gratitude attitude is basic for high-quality mental health and for all-around success.  Studies show that individuals who have positive attitudes and experience gratitude regularly have a higher rate of happiness and less stress.

This simple attitude shift can change your perspective almost instantaneously.  The next time you are experiencing high stress, stop and take a deep breath.  Make a quick list in your head of five things you are grateful for.  You will feel better.

Learning to see everything in an appreciative, positive way is not easy. However, practice makes it easier.

The Attitude of Possibility

Every experience and opportunity is a gift.  It leads to possibility.  Think back on your past experience, good and bad – would you agree that even the most difficult experiences had some sort of silver lining?  Are you somehow better off, or a better person as a result your experience?

Now, try this question on for size - can you ever really make a mistake? If you believe you can, you’ll live your life out of fear and never take risks.  Consider this - every failure or challenge, or “mistake” is an opportunity for possibility.  What would your experience be of the events in your life if you were to embrace possibility as the ultimate outcome of any situation?

The Attitude of Possibility is an art form.  It takes practice and trust to stay open to possibility.  When faced with any challenge, ask yourself, “How might this experience be perfect right now?”  And then ask, “What is possible?”

The Attitude of Abundance

Believe it or not, there’s enough love, money and business to go around. Contrary to popular belief, our world is an abundant place.  Think of how many people are on the planet with needs and how many businesses start up to meet those needs each year.  Every business is unique and attracts its perfect customers.

The attitude here to adopt is - there IS enough.  By simply staying focused on your passion and attracting your perfect customers, you will begin to experience abundance in business and life.  Choose to thrive in a growing, abundant world and see what opens up for you.

The Attitude of Service

You are Inspiration!  Not only can you be driven by your inspiration to be a successful person, you can BE inspiration and have a fabulous life too!  Think of yourself as the beautiful, unique jewel that you are. The offering you make to the world is founded on the combination of your vision, your purpose and the gifts you bring. This is where the attitude of service begins.

After all, your values and vision spring from your humanity.  Be you.  Be inspiration.  Be service.  The Attitude of Service is not something you put on and take off when at work.  It is something you carry with you throughout each day.  Someone who truly has the Attitude of Service will always embody the Attitude of Service to other people, no matter what the circumstances.

The international business networking organization has the Attitude of Service built into its program.  “Givers Gain” is its motto.  The idea behind it is that if you focus on giving to others, more will come back to you.

The Attitude of Accountability

Keeping on track to fulfill your goals takes intention.  One of the secrets of success is learning to adopt an Attitude of Accountability.  Human nature tends to follow a path of least resistance.

The Attitude of Accountability is about keeping your word –doing what you say you’re going to do.  Keeping your word is a standard or a value that’s attractive and success-producing.

Accountability can take many forms.  You can request a member of your support team to hold you accountable; you can hire a coach or mentor and deepen your work with them.  You can simply write your intentions down, create a timeline and task list to review on a regular basis. Whatever you decide is right for you.

I challenge you to stay accountable.  Honor whatever investment you make of your precious time and money.  Take the time now to put systems into place that will help you maintain your intentions, goals, and actions.

It’s YOUR life. . . imagine the possibilities!


Helaine Iris is a certified Life Coach, writer and teacher that loves her life.  She works with individuals, and self-employed professionals, who want to thrive in their business while crafting a life that's in absolute alignment with their highest ideals, deepest values and gracefully masters the complexities of modern living.  For a solution focused complimentary session visit her website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com

   

Nothing others do is because
of you. What others say and do
is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and
actions of others, you won't be
the victim of needless suffering.

Don Miguel Ruiz

   
Reaching for Happiness

Know that. . . .

You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
You are human like everyone else.

So. . . .

Find out who you are, and be that.
Decide what comes first, and do that.
Discover your strengths, and use them.
Learn not to compete with others,
because no one else is in the contest of being you.

Then you'll have. . . .

Learned to accept your uniqueness.
Learned to set priorities and make decisions.
Learned to live with your limitations.
Learned to give yourself the respect that is due.
And you'll be a most vital mortal.

Dare To Believe. . . .

You're are a wonderful, unique person.
You're a once-in-all-history event.
That it's more than a right to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve,
but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up
on anything that tries to get you down.

unattributed

   
   

   

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No Future in the Past
Steve Goodier

The man looked a little worried when the doctor came in to administer his annual physical, so the first thing the doctor did was to ask whether anything was troubling him.

"Well, to tell the truth, Doc, yes," answered the patient.  "You see, I seem to be getting forgetful.  No, it's actually worse than that.  I can never remember where I park my car, where I'm going, or what it is I'm going to do once I get there -- if I get there.  So, I really need your help.  What can I do?"

The doctor mused for a moment, then answered kindly, "Pay me in advance."

Actually, forgetfulness isn't all bad. . . especially when we decide to forget all that pain from the past that threatens to ruin the present.  Like one song says, "There ain't no future in the past."

The past is to be remembered -- how else will we learn from it and keep from repeating it?  But why would I want to remember every time I felt hurt because of my spouse, my children, my friends, my boss or anybody else?  Why would I want to fill my mind with a detailed catalogue of past pain?  Better to remember the times they brought me joy or love or feelings of warmth.  Unfortunately, even those wonderful and magical moments too easily fade away.

A friend of Clara Barton, founder of the American Red Cross, asked her about a particular traumatic event in her life.  Miss Barton seemed perplexed.

"Can't you remember?" the friend prodded.

Clara Barton replied, "I distinctly remember forgetting it."

Dwell on the past -- but not the negative past, not the pain of the past nor the sadness.  Dwell on the good.  Be consumed by past joys and obsessed with gratitude.  Dwell upon the moments that uplifted you, the times you laughed and the memories of love shown to you by friends and family.

Not everything should be remembered, and those who live well know what to forget and what to cherish.  Like the song says, "There ain't no future in the past."  But there IS joy there.  And love.  And kindness. . . if we choose to remember.



Steve Goodier, Publisher@LifeSupportSystem.com, is a professional speaker, consultant and author of numerous books. Visit his site for more information, or to sign up for his FREE newsletter of Life, Love and Laughter at http://LifeSupportSystem.com.

   

When our actions create discord in another person, we, ourselves, in this lifetime or another, will feel that discord.  Likewise, if our actions create harmony and empowerment in another, we also come to feel that harmony and empowerment.

Gary Zukav

  

  

   

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