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are all beginners, and indeed the hopefulness of life is
in realizing that there are such vistas of unending
possibilities before us, that however far we go we shall
always be on the threshold of something greater.
T.
Troward
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For
peace of mind, resign as
general manager of the universe.
Larry
Eisenberg |
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Solitude
is the furnace of transformation. Without solitude we
remain victims of society and continue to be entangled
in the illusions of the false self.
Henri
Nouwen |
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Stop,
Look, and Listen
Leslie Levine On
the afternoon of her fortieth birthday, I called a friend
to wish her well. I asked about her plans for the
rest of the day and learned that a celebration had already
taken place. In the morning, my friend, her two
sisters, and her husband had risen high into the Kentucky
sky in a hot-air balloon. "What was it
like?" I asked. "Well, I don't know if I
can explain it," she said. "I was so
focused on the moment, when it was actually
happening." What
I learned from my friend that morning is that sometimes,
to be in the moment, you must surrender to it
completely. That's not to say you won't remember it
later, though you may forfeit the chance to put the moment
into words. And although I couldn't say exactly what
my pal experienced that morning, I heard the thrill and
awe in her voice. To
truly be present, one must live inside the moment
and experience it for its own sake. If you live outside
the moment--observing and explaining--you're no longer
absorbing and feeling. The moment breaks apart and
eventually disappears. Think of a movie.
Sometimes it's impossible to explain what you've
seen. On another level, though, one you can't
necessarily pinpoint, you know that once you begin
dissecting your experience, you take away from it as well.
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When
you live inside the moment, you break ties with the past
and the future. You put aside yesterday's regrets
and shelve the fears of tomorrow, because ultimately these
moments have minds of their own. And like sand
through your fingertips, moments can't be held for
long. Even if you only have them by a thread, your
moments are worth holding on to, especially when you put
them all together. After all, isn't a succession of
moments what our lives are all about?
As
hard as we try to hold onto our moments--recognizing and
honoring them-- it's still tempting, habitual really, to
let them go, to minimize their presence. Instead of
collecting them, we scatter our moments like marbles that
roll in every direction. It reminds me of that old
game, Hot Potato. Get rid of it, quick! It's
as if we don't know what to do with the moment, as if we
really have to do something with it.
Perhaps
our penchant for minimizing the moment has something to do
with waiting. As children, many of us learned
exceedingly well how to wait. Wait until you're
older, wait until you're bigger, wait until you finish
your homework, wait until after school, wait until after
dinner. We were told to wait a lot. So we
waited, and instead of enjoying the moment, we focused on
what we were waiting for. It's not surprising then
that we tend to downgrade the moment or miss it
altogether.
As
I get older, the moment has become increasingly more
important. When I yield to the moment, I stop
fretting and worrying about the future. I stop
guessing at what may happen and, instead, pay attention to
what's right before my eyes. Sometimes the moment
exhilarates like a bright and unexpected shooting
star. Other times, the moment is painful, as if I'm
getting poked repeatedly in the side.
A
few years ago, I sat on my son's bedroom floor folding
some baby clothes that he'd outgrown. I could feel
the sadness and regret creeping in, but I wanted so badly
to feel OK about the passage of time. I quickened my
pace to push the pain away. I wanted the moment to
be over. Suddenly, though, I looked up and noticed a
very blue sky staring down through the window. Just
feel it, I said to myself, as I slowed down, trying to
focus on the task in front of me. I held a shirt
close to my face and inhaled as deeply as I could.
My heart seemed to crack and fill up at the same time as
feelings of hope and loss collided right there in a pile
of little boy's old clothes. When I finally got up
to leave the room, I wasn't sad anymore. Instead, I
thought about the miraculous growth of a child, whose
shirt size is less about loss and more about the gift of
life itself.
I
don't know if you can live inside each and every
moment. But when you can, try to stop, look, and
listen long enough to be right where you are, not in your
past, not in your future. Just right in the middle
of a split second in time.
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Ice
Cream for Breakfast
helps
readers capture
those moments of self-indulgence
that are often gained through
appreciating life's smallest
pleasures. From enjoying a
big bowl of Rocky Road
for breakfast to reveling in
the beauty of your toes,
52 short essays reveal the
simple truth: you really
have to take care of
yourself if you're going to
take care of others. |
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Tremendously
Rewarding Habits
Steve Brunkhorst
Positive
habits bring the tremendous rewards of success, joy, and
lasting fulfillment. Here are seven habits that I
believe are very important for living
joyfully and successfully:
Gratitude. . . offering a simple and sincere "Thank
you" when someone is helpful or shows a kindness,
and offering daily prayers of gratitude for all
blessings.
Reliability and trustworthiness. . . taking personal
responsibility to keep one's agreements, even if it
takes longer than anticipated.
Persistence and tenacity. . taking measured risks,
surmounting obstacles, and with patience, completing
worthwhile missions that fulfill one's purpose.
Encouragement. . . showing appreciation and support for
the talents, dreams, efforts, and accomplishments of
others.
Compassion. . . doing what is possible to alleviate
human suffering, treating other members of our human
family with love, generosity, and forgiveness.
Cooperation. . . welcoming necessary changes,
negotiating and resolving differences in ways that
achieve common goals, communicate goodwill, show
strength of character, and foster supportive alliances.
Continuous learning. . . gaining new skills, recording
experiences, and learning from both desirable and
undesirable events to create clearer maps for future
progress.
John Dryden wisely wrote, "We first make our
habits, and then our habits make us." So adopting
new habits begins with a decision--a commitment to take
actions that will align with one's values and goals.
Consider the questions below. Your answers will create a
valuable "habit list" to review and update
from time to time:
What habits have consistently brought rewards to your
personal life or career? What rewards did they
bring? What habits could you adopt today that
could have a positive impact on your future? What are
the rewards
you will expect to receive?
May your life, today and in the future, be filled with
all the rewards that you desire.
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The
Attitudes Of Success And Happiness
Helaine Iris
“Success
is getting what you want;
happiness is wanting what you get.”
Author Unknown
This
quote struck me. As a business and life coach, I work
with people every day who are striving to be - do - or
have something in their lives. Be it a successful
business, a life that is less stressed, or a more
satisfying career, everyone wants the same thing at the
core – to feel successful and to be happy.
It
sounds easy to attain but we all know it’s not. There
are many fine formulas for success and happiness out
there. You’ve probably tried many self-help or
business improvement programs and know they would work
if you consistently practiced and skillfully applied
them.
But in
my experience. it takes something else to truly
experience deep, enduring success and happiness.
It takes simple yet profound attitude shifts.
Attitude shifts, when adopted and practiced, can and
will change the fundamental nature of your being.
I offer
you the following back–to-basics Attitudes Of Success
and Happiness. Consider adopting them and see if you
notice a change in the quality of your life and
business.
The
Attitude of Gratitude
Gratitude
is appreciation and thankfulness. Do you remember
the last time you stopped for a moment simply to
acknowledge all the good things in your life? When
you’re focused on the big picture, or caught up in
day-to-day living, it’s hard to remember to take a
step back and count your blessings.
Having
a positive, gratitude attitude is basic for high-quality
mental health and for all-around success. Studies
show that individuals who have positive attitudes and
experience gratitude regularly have a higher rate of
happiness and less stress.
This
simple attitude shift can change your perspective almost
instantaneously. The next time you are
experiencing high stress, stop and take a deep
breath. Make a quick list in your head of five
things you are grateful for. You will feel better.
Learning
to see everything in an appreciative, positive way is
not easy. However, practice makes it easier.
The
Attitude of Possibility
Every
experience and opportunity is a gift. It leads to
possibility. Think back on your past experience,
good and bad – would you agree that even the most
difficult experiences had some sort of silver
lining? Are you somehow better off, or a better
person as a result your experience?
Now,
try this question on for size - can you ever really make
a mistake? If you believe you can, you’ll live your
life out of fear and never take risks. Consider
this - every failure or challenge, or “mistake” is
an opportunity for possibility. What would your
experience be of the events in your life if you were to
embrace possibility as the ultimate outcome of any
situation?
The
Attitude of Possibility is an art form. It takes
practice and trust to stay open to possibility.
When faced with any challenge, ask yourself, “How
might this experience be perfect right now?” And
then ask, “What is possible?”
The
Attitude of Abundance
Believe
it or not, there’s enough love, money and business to
go around. Contrary to popular belief, our world is an
abundant place. Think of how many people are on
the planet with needs and how many businesses start up
to meet those needs each year. Every business is
unique and attracts its perfect customers.
The
attitude here to adopt is - there IS enough. By
simply staying focused on your passion and attracting
your perfect customers, you will begin to experience
abundance in business and life. Choose to thrive
in a growing, abundant world and see what opens up for
you.
The
Attitude of Service
You are
Inspiration! Not only can you be driven by your
inspiration to be a successful person, you can BE
inspiration and have a fabulous life too! Think of
yourself as the beautiful, unique jewel that you are.
The offering you make to the world is founded on the
combination of your vision, your purpose and the gifts
you bring. This is where the attitude of service begins.
After
all, your values and vision spring from your
humanity. Be you. Be inspiration. Be
service. The Attitude of Service is not something
you put on and take off when at work. It is
something you carry with you throughout each day.
Someone who truly has the Attitude of Service will
always embody the Attitude of Service to other people,
no matter what the circumstances.
The
international business networking organization has the
Attitude of Service built into its program.
“Givers Gain” is its motto. The idea behind it
is that if you focus on giving to others, more will come
back to you.
The
Attitude of Accountability
Keeping
on track to fulfill your goals takes intention.
One of the secrets of success is learning to adopt an
Attitude of Accountability. Human nature tends to
follow a path of least resistance.
The
Attitude of Accountability is about keeping your word
–doing what you say you’re going to do.
Keeping your word is a standard or a value that’s
attractive and success-producing.
Accountability
can take many forms. You can request a member of
your support team to hold you accountable; you can hire
a coach or mentor and deepen your work with them.
You can simply write your intentions down, create a
timeline and task list to review on a regular basis.
Whatever you decide is right for you.
I
challenge you to stay accountable. Honor whatever
investment you make of your precious time and
money. Take the time now to put systems into place
that will help you maintain your intentions, goals, and
actions.
It’s
YOUR life. . . imagine the possibilities!
Helaine
Iris is a certified Life Coach, writer and teacher that
loves her life. She
works with
individuals, and self-employed professionals, who
want to thrive
in their business while crafting a life that's in
absolute alignment with their highest ideals, deepest
values and gracefully masters the complexities of modern
living. For a solution focused complimentary
session visit her
website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her
603-357-8546
or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com
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Nothing
others do is because
of you. What others say and do
is a
projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are
immune to the opinions and
actions of others, you won't be
the
victim of needless suffering.
Don
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Reaching
for Happiness
Know that. . . .
You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
You are human like everyone else.
So. . . .
Find out who you are, and be that.
Decide what comes first, and do that.
Discover your strengths, and use them.
Learn not to compete with others,
because no one else is in the contest of being you.
Then you'll have. . . .
Learned to accept your uniqueness.
Learned to set priorities and make decisions.
Learned to live with your limitations.
Learned to give yourself the respect that is due.
And you'll be a most vital mortal.
Dare To Believe. . . .
You're are a wonderful, unique person.
You're a once-in-all-history event.
That it's more than a right to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve,
but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up
on anything that tries to get you down.
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No
Future in the Past
Steve Goodier
The
man looked a little worried when the doctor came in to
administer his annual physical, so the first thing the doctor
did was to ask whether anything was troubling him.
"Well,
to tell the truth, Doc, yes," answered the patient.
"You see, I seem to be getting forgetful. No, it's
actually worse than that. I can never remember where I park my
car, where I'm going, or what it is I'm going to do once I get
there -- if I get there. So, I really need your help. What can
I do?"
The
doctor mused for a moment, then answered kindly, "Pay me
in advance."
Actually,
forgetfulness isn't all bad. . . especially when we decide to
forget all that pain from the past that threatens to ruin the
present. Like one song says, "There ain't no future in
the past."
The
past is to be remembered -- how else will we learn from it and
keep from repeating it? But why would I want to remember every
time I felt hurt because of my spouse, my children, my
friends, my boss or anybody else? Why would I want to fill my
mind with a detailed catalogue of past pain? Better to
remember the times they brought me joy or love or feelings of
warmth. Unfortunately, even those wonderful and magical
moments too easily fade away.
A
friend of Clara Barton, founder of the American Red Cross,
asked her about a particular traumatic event in her life. Miss
Barton seemed perplexed.
"Can't
you remember?" the friend prodded.
Clara
Barton replied, "I distinctly remember forgetting
it."
Dwell
on the past -- but not the negative past, not the pain of the
past nor the sadness. Dwell on the good. Be consumed by past
joys and obsessed with gratitude. Dwell upon the moments that
uplifted you, the times you laughed and the memories of love
shown to you by friends and family.
Not
everything should be remembered, and those who live well know
what to forget and what to cherish. Like the song says,
"There ain't no future in the past." But there IS
joy there. And love. And kindness. . . if we choose to remember.
Steve Goodier, Publisher@LifeSupportSystem.com, is a
professional speaker, consultant and author of numerous
books. Visit his site for more information, or to sign
up for his FREE newsletter of Life, Love and Laughter at
http://LifeSupportSystem.com.
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When
our actions create discord in another person, we, ourselves,
in this lifetime or another, will feel that discord.
Likewise, if our actions create harmony and empowerment in
another, we also come to feel that harmony and empowerment.
Gary
Zukav
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