14 April 2009  

  

Hello there, and welcome to today!  The world continues to turn,
and our planet finds itself many, many miles from the spot in space
where it was when our last issue came out.  We're also all different
people, having learned and felt our beliefs change and shifted some
of our opinions, so we go out today as new people in a new world
in a new place, starting the rest of our lives on this very day. . . .

Desiderata
Max Ehrmann

Self-Love (an excerpt)
M. Scott Peck

A Nice Long Walk
tom walsh

Born with Love
Marianne Williamson

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To have a purpose that is worthwhile, and that is steadily being accomplished, is one of the secrets of a life that is worth living.

Herbert Casson

Patience and tenacity of purpose are assets
of infinitely greater value than cleverness.
There is great strength in patiently waiting.
The sun, having set, comes up.  The tide ebbs,
but always flows in again.

Fred van Amburgh

All people ought to begin with themselves, and make their own happiness first, from which the happiness of the whole world would at last unquestionably follow.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

  

  
There's a tendency among many people (and I share the tendency to a certain extent) to feel that "new is better," that in an e-zine like this, only new material is helpful to people.  I have to disagree, though, even with my own self--sometimes it's really good to remind ourselves of some of the most important things.  I read books often two or three times, getting something new from them each time.  The second time I see a good movie is usually the best.  So in that spirit, we present some reminders today--material that we know you've seen before, but which is well worth reminding ourselves about.
Desiderata
Max Ehrmann

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons--they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be careful.
Strive to be happy.

   
   

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Self-Love
an excerpt from Further along the Road Less Traveled
M. Scott Peck

What do I mean by self-love?

Back when I worked as a psychiatrist in the army, the military was interested in what made successful people click, and so a dozen such people from different branches of the service were gathered together for study.  They were men and women in their late thirties or early forties who had all been markedly successful.  They had been promoted ahead of their contemporaries, yet they also seemed to be popular.  Those who had families seemed to be enjoying a happy family life, their children were doing well in school and were well adjusted.  These people seemed to have a golden touch.

They were studied in various dimensions, sometimes as a group, sometimes individually.  As a part of the study they were asked to write down on a piece of paper -- and they did not have the chance to consult with one another about this issue -- the three most important things in their life, in order of priority.

There were two phenomena that were quite remarkable about the way the group handled this task.  One was the seriousness with which they took it.  The first to return his answer sheet took well over forty minutes, and a number of the people took more than an hour, even though they knew that most of the group had finished.  The other thing that was remarkable was that, while the second and third items on their lists ranged all over the map, all twelve had written exactly the same answer for number one:  "Myself."  Not "Love."  Not "God."  Not "My family."  But "Myself."

And that, I suggest, was an expression of mature self-love.  Self-love implies the care, respect, and responsibility for and the knowledge of the self.  Without loving one's self one cannot love others.  But do not confuse self-love with self-centeredness.  These successful men and women were loving spouses and parents and caring supervisors.
   

Further Along the Road Less Traveled takes the lectures of Dr. Peck and presents his profound insights into the issues that confront and challenge all of us today: spirituality, forgiveness, relationships, and growing up. In this aid for living less simplistically, you will learn not to look for the easy answers but to think multidimensionally. You will learn to reach for the "ultimate step," which brings you face to face with your personal spirituality. It will be this that helps you appreciate the complexity that is life.

   

   
Eyes Wide Open
tom walsh

A Nice Long Walk

I think that I've been fortunate to have an innate urge all my life to take long walks.  Ever since I was a kid (and my wife would argue that those days aren't over!), I've always loved heading out and walking for hours sometimes, often with no particular destination or reason for going other than just to get out and see some more of life.  These walks have done a lot to keep me aware and to keep me healthy, and I've learned more through walking than I ever could have by sitting at home, doing nothing.

One of the prerequisites for enjoying a nice long walk is having no real time table.  If you have to be back at a certain time, that's okay, but it certainly doesn't promote spontaneity or searching out new roads or paths.  It also speeds you up, which means that your chances of noticing things definitely go down.  You may still notice the major things that you go by such as houses and trees and nice views, but you'll miss the things like the cool insect on the tall grass or the way the light makes certain bushes shimmer.  I would never not take a walk because I had a deadline, but I try to make sure that I have time to stop where I want to (especially if the urge for a cup of coffee hits), to extend my walk, or to explore new directions.

The health benefits of the long walk cannot be disputed.  Our bodies were made to be used, and walking is great exercise.  It's also very low-impact, which means that our chances of hurting ourselves while out for a walk are very low.  Walking also helps the heart by getting to to beat more strongly, helps our circulation and our lungs, and helps us to shape and define our muscles, especially in our legs.  No one's going to get the body of a body builder by walking, but the long-term benefits of walking are well documented, which is why so many doctors recommend the practice for those of us who need exercise.

The mental benefits of walking are also many.  Walking for me has a very similar effect to meditation for other people.  It helps me to clear my mind, and it helps me to think through problems and dilemmas.  When I'm out walking without hurry and without a destination, my mind tends to relax as I focus on so many things outside of myself, as I see the natural world around me and breathe the fresh air.  A long walk can help me to reach a state of clarity much more easily than any other practice that I've ever discovered, and walks have often helped me through difficult times in my life.

I try to walk as much as I can.  If we need a gallon of milk, I'd much rather take the twenty-minute walk to the store than the three-minute drive.  When I have a break at work I often take advantage of the time to get out and spend the time walking.  Even if I'm seeing the same things that I always see on such walks, they're never exactly the same.  Every walk has its own personality, its own feel, and I love to see and feel those changes inside.  I don't remember ever being bored on any walk I've ever taken--there's always something interesting to see.

In our modern world of hurry and convenience, I often find that I'm the only one out on the street, walking.  Sidewalks in most places tend to be empty, except for downtown areas during business hours.  I see very few people walk to the store, and most of those I do see tend to be either very old or very young.  One of the things that I love about Spain is that the people are out walking so often--usually the streets of most towns are packed with people, except during siesta.  This fact leads to much stronger social ties, as people who are walking have the chance to stop and chat with someone they know, something we just can't do when we're in our cars.

For many people, walking hasn't been an option for years.  It's no longer one of the choices they have to make--should we walk to the movies, or drive?  For most of us, it's assumed that we'll drive wherever we go.  And that's a shame, for most people never will know just what they're losing by depriving themselves of the experience of walking.

   
   
   
Life is a series of choices and as all ideas in this manifested universe are divided as opposites, we can choose the negative ego approach or the positive spiritual approach. . . . From the negative ego approach we learn that we will suffer until we balance our actions and bring our lives into harmony with the laws that govern the universe.  This is called the law of hard knocks or karma.  With the positive spiritual approach we choose to live in obedience to God's will, to live in harmony with universal laws without being pushed into it.  This can be called the school of grace.

Cheryl Canfield

   

  
Born with Love (Introduction to A Return to Love)
Marianne Williamson

When we were born, we were programmed perfectly.  We had a natural tendency to focus on love.  Our imaginations were creative and flourishing, and we knew how to use them.  We were connected to a world much richer than the one we connect to now, a world full of enchantment and a sense of the miraculous.

So what happened?  Why is it that we reached a certain age, looked around, and the enchantment was gone?

Because we were taught to focus elsewhere.  We were taught to focus elsewhere.  We were taught to think unnaturally.  We were taught a very bad philosophy, a way of looking at the world that contradicts who we are.

We were taught to think thoughts like competition, struggle, sickness, finite resources, limitation, guilt, bad, death, scarcity, and loss.  We began to think these things, and so we began to know them.  We were taught that things like grades, being good enough, money, and doing things the right way, are more important than love.  We were taught that we're separate from other people, that we have to compete to get ahead, that we're not quite good enough the way we are.  We were taught to see the world the way that others had come to see it.  It's as though, as soon as we got here, we were given a sleeping pill.  The thinking of the world, which is not based on love, began pounding in our ears the moment we hit shore.

Love is what we were born with.  fear is what we learned here.  The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or unlearning, of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts.  Love is the essential existential fact.  It is our ultimate reality and our purpose on earth.  To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.

Meaning doesn't lie in things.  Meaning lies in us.  When we attach value to things that aren't love -- the money, the car, the house, the prestige -- we are loving things that can't love us back.  We are searching for meaning in the meaningless.  Money, of itself, means nothing.  Material things, of themselves, mean nothing.  It's not that they're bad.  It's that they're nothing.

We came here to co-create with God by extending love.  Life spent with any other purpose in mind is meaningless, contrary to our nature, and ultimately painful.  It's as though we've been lost in a dark, parallel universe where things are loved more than people.  We overvalue what we perceive with our physical senses, and undervalue what we know to be true in our hearts.

Love isn't seen with the physical eyes or heard with the physical ears.  The physical sense can't perceive it; it's perceived through another kind of vision.  Metaphysicians call it the Third Eye, esoteric Christians call it the vision of the Holy Spirit, and others call it the Higher Self.  Regardless of what it's called, love requires a different kind of "seeing" than we're used to -- a different kind of knowing or thinking.  Love is the intuitive knowledge of our hearts.  It's a "world beyond" that we all secretly long for.  An ancient memory of this love haunts all of us all the time, and beckons us to return.

Love isn't material.  It's energy.  It's the feeling in a room, a situation, a person.  Money can't buy it.  Sex doesn't guarantee it.  It has nothing at all to do with the physical world, but it can be expressed nonetheless.  We experience it as kindness, giving, mercy, compassion, peace, joy, acceptance, non-judgment, joining, and intimacy.

Fear is our shared lovelessness, our individual and collective hells.  It's a world that seems to press on us from within and without, giving constant false testimony to the meaninglessness of love.  When fear is expressed, we recognize it as anger, abuse, disease, pain, greed, addiction, selfishness, obsession, corruption, violence, and war.

Love is hidden within us.  It cannot be destroyed, but can only be hidden.  The world we knew as children is still buried within our minds.
   

Williamson reveals how we each can become a miracle worker by accepting God and by the expression of love in our daily lives. Whether psychic pain is in the area of relationships, career, or health, she shows us how love is a potent force, the key to inner peace, and how by practicing love we can make our own lives more fulfilling while creating a more peaceful and loving world for our children.

   
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The biggest secret of self-esteem is this:
Begin to appreciate other people more, show respect
for any human being merely because he or she is
a child of God and therefore a "thing of value."

Maxwell Maltz

  

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