What the new year
brings to you will depend a great deal
on what you bring to the new year.
The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting
to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.
belongs to the living, and those who live must be prepared for changes.
If you don't like something, change it. If you
can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.
John Marks Templeton
Self-esteem is an issue that receives a lot of
attention in many areas. Perhaps that is
because in today's world of communication, we
know that reasonable self-esteem has much to do
with one's overall happiness in life and that it
is important for our achievement and
success. Low self-esteem has been shown by
various psychological studies to be a key factor
in a wide range of emotional problems. So
what is self-esteem? It includes
the beliefs and attitudes we hold towards
ourselves, in thought, feeling, words, and
actions--both consciously and
subconsciously--and the expressions in our lives
that those mental responses engender.
Self-esteem plays this key role in our life
because thought and faith are creative.
Because self-esteem is so very much a part of
our mental attitude, the basics for
strengthening this part of ourselves can begin
with the awareness that we have the power to
direct our mind as we choose. Let's look
at some techniques we can work with that can
help us strengthen our own self-esteem.
1. Develop Your Spiritual Nature.
You can find your rightful place in the world
when you give up your belief that it is hidden
from you or that you are unworthy of
success. Believe that the Spirit of God is
within you and that the light of his presence
reveals the way to you.
Positively! Decide to develop a
positive sense of who and what you are by
translating negative thoughts and feelings into
more positive or neutral alternatives.
Remember, you tend to become what you think.
3. Value Your Emotional Nature as
you would a faithful friend and servant.
Use your feelings to enhance growth, express
love, facilitate communication, empower action,
visualize your goals, and strengthen your
capacity to live fully each day. Respect
your feelings and be understanding and
supportive and a good friend to yourself as
well as others.
4. Review and Release Negative Past
Programming. Confucius said
"Settle one difficulty and you keep a
hundred away." Let go of feelings of
guilt through the power of forgiving yourself
and others. Be aware that habits are not
something that you are but something you do.
Those that are less than positive can be
released, if that is your desire. The
decision to change a habit is conscious, and
your ability to change a habit relates to your
skill in mastering your own subconscious mind.
5. Re-evaluate where you presently
are according to your own highest sense of what
is true, helpful, and productive. Believe
that peace exists within you and that you don't
need to get caught up in the turbulence of
others or of outer circumstances. Build
your faith with the following "bricks"
of repeated belief:
* you are filled with amazing life and
* you have plenty for all your real needs
* you are infolded in divine love
* you are being awakened to infinite joy
and usefulness, and the light of God within is
your source of inspiration and guidance.
Now, rest for a while in contemplation of these
things and write your thoughts, feelings,
awarenesses, and experiences of inner promptings
in your journal. God bless you.
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A Letter to Two Sons
Dear Dana and Matthew,
It's Christmas Eve, and I have retreated to the room which
your mother calls Dad's Word Factory.
For the last few hours, in my own fumbling way, I have
tried to help your mother wrap your Christmas toys, and
they have now been placed under our tree to await your
morning onslaught. Funny, but each year I tease
mother about the care with which she wraps each package,
for we know how little boys handle pretty ribbons and
paper, but she still treats each gift as if it contained
gold bars, and maybe they do hold something just as
valuable--our love for both of you.
When I finished my duties downstairs, I came up to your
room and stood between your beds, barely able to see your
faces in the soft glow of the night-light. From
below I could hear, just faintly, Christmas carols from
the kitchen radio.
Suddenly, and without realizing it, I was on my
knees--driven there, I guess, by my doubts and fears that
I'm not the father I should be. Now, I don't expect
either of you to understand this letter, and the odds are
great that you will never see it, but I wonder if we have
given you the gifts that really count.
Have we taught you to count your blessings, not only so
that you will appreciate what you have but so that you
will want to do something for those who have not?
Have we taught you to be color-blind, so that you can look
at a black, yellow, red, or brown child and see only a
Have we taught you to love your country and to remember
the thousands of other boys who gave their lives so that
you can sleep in warmth and freedom?
Have we taught you to respect the laws and to understand
that if you do not agree with them, you work to change
them but you never disobey them?
Have we taught you to pray--and to pray only for guidance,
because God can help you solve any problem if you let him?
Have we taught you never to quit in anything you do, for
if you persist, you will eventually win?
Have we taught you to share--not only your possessions but
also yourself, without any thought of acknowledgment or
Have we taught you that the world is really a beautiful
place, filled with beautiful people, in spite of what you
see on television?
Have we taught you that you can be anything you want to
be--if you are willing to pay the price to reach your
And most important, have we taught you how to love?
I know you both tell us that you love us, and we tell you
that we love you, but it's easy for us to love each
other. What we hope is that you learn to love
everyone--and that is the hardest job you will ever
have--until you learn the secret, and the secret is so
simple. All you must remember is that hate grows out
of fear. If you are afraid someone is going to beat
you in a fight, you immediately begin to hate him.
When you grow older, if you are afraid someone is going to
steal your job, your girl, or your business, you
immediately begin to hate. Without that fear there
will never be hate, and without hate it is easy to love.
Our toughest task, then, your mother's and mine, is to
help both of you grow up without fear--and this we promise
to do with every bit of our ability. Every child is
a miracle, so you are both miracles--and there is no room
for fear or hate in a miracle.
I prayed before I left your darkened room--and I was there
so long that my eyes had become adjusted to the faint
light and I could see both your faces. Because of
this special night I could only look at you, my boys, and
think of another tiny boy who slept on this night for the
first time, nearly two thousand years ago. He was
not as warm as you, his bed was not as comfortable as
yours, and his poor mother and father were frightened and
alone in a strange town.
Yet I wouldn't be here in your room tonight, and thinking
these thoughts, if it had not been for that small boy--and
I cannot help but wonder what his dad was thinking as he
looked down on his sleeping face. If it is not sacrilegious,
I want you both to know that I envy that other father, for
he gave his son the gifts I hope we can give to you.
One more thing. Children forget quickly, so you
don't even talk about Grandpa Teddy anymore. You say
"He's dead" when someone asks you or mentions
his name. But the last time we saw Grandpa Teddy was
as we were driving away from his house two years
ago. Just as we were leaving, he leaned in our car
window and said to me, "Drive carefully, you've got a
mighty precious cargo in the back."
Only later, after he was gone from us, did I remember his
remark--and now I think of it again and remember all my
boyhood Christmases when, no matter how tough the times,
there was always a gift under the Christmas tree for his
You are both, indeed, my precious cargo--and I pray to God
that he helps me to guide you to manhood and that he
allows me the luxury of hanging around long enough to see
you reach it.
Merry Christmas my sons,
new book is a special gift to all his friends, old
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The object of a New Year is not that
we should have a new year. It is
that we should have a new soul and a new nose; new feet, a new
backbone, new ears, and new eyes. Unless a particular person made
New Year resolutions, he or she would make no resolutions. Unless
starts afresh about things, that person will certainly do nothing
Starting Your Year Well
It Going Well)
Another new year is almost
upon us, and we're in a short period of time when we often start
thinking about what kinds of changes we'd like to see in our
lives--and what kinds of changes we would have to make in our
behavior and our thoughts in order to make those life changes come
to be. Each year we have this opportunity to step back and
observe our own lives, to think about the things that we have done
and haven't done, and then adjust our lives so that we may be a
bit happier or more fulfilled in the year that's coming.
But how do we do this? Traditionally, there has long been
the practice of making New Year's resolutions, which are promises
that we make to ourselves about changes that we plan to make--we
can lose weight, take those classes, write that novel, be nicer to
animals, or whatever else we feel would make our lives better and
make us better people. But resolutions, as we all know, tend
to fall by the wayside. We give up on that diet the first
time we see a piece of cheesecake, because once we cheat that
first time, we abandon the promise altogether.
Every new year people make resolutions to change
aspects of themselves
they believe are negative.
A majority of people revert back to how
before and feel like failures. This year I challenge you
to a new
resolution. I challenge you to just be yourself.
though, ways that we can make the new year better
for us. There is no magic formula and it isn't
always easy, but if we really do want to make
changes in the coming year, we can do so. It
takes a bit of effort and it definitely requires
vigilance and follow-up, but it can be done.
For me, such a process involves writing things
down--that's just the way I learn and think the
best. For making changes and improvements in
my life, I find it important to write down first
what I think isn't going well (I haven't spent as
much time on my novel as I've wanted to) without
getting into a self-bashing session. This list
is usually fairly short, because I do realize that I
try my best at what I do, and if I'm falling short,
it's not a crime against humanity, but just
something that needs to be adjusted.
Then I write down goals for the coming year. I
want to take a good vacation in the summer, I want
to volunteer more time with charity organizations in
my town, I want to run a 50-mile race in less than
eight hours--whatever comes to mind. Once I do
that, it's important to winnow the list down to the
few that are most important to me as a person.
For example, volunteering time is more important to
me in the long run than my time in any race, and the
amount of training I would need for that race would
seriously diminish the amount of time available to
me for volunteering, so my revised list would
include the volunteering but not the race.
I'll definitely still run it, but I won't worry
about time at all.
Once this is done, and I have a good idea of the
concrete things I most hope to accomplish next year,
it's time for a "passion" list, a
"no-limits" list. What am I the most
passionate about? What would I do with the
next year if there were no limits on time or money
or resources? This list helps us to
dream--because dreaming is an important part of who
we are as human beings, and it's important that we
allow ourselves to dream as much as possible.
What you more than likely will find on your dream
list, though, is something that's actually possible
if you make only a few minor changes.
We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We
to put words on them ourselves. The book is called
and its first chapter is New Year's Day.
will tell you that it's important to enlist the help
of a trusted person to keep you on track, to help to
remind you of your promises and your desire to stick
to them. While this can be a very effective
way to stay focused on your goals, I personally
don't consider it to be extremely important.
To me, it's much more important to keep my goals
visible so that I can see them regularly; perhaps
I'll post them on the refrigerator door on a piece
of very bright-colored paper. And if they're
personal, I may simply write "Goal Number
Two" on the paper without any details--as soon
as I see the sheet, I know what it means.
Asking someone else to help in some cases could put
extra pressure on another person that he or she
doesn't really want to deal with. And think of
this--you haven't exercised in a week though your
goal was to do so every day. How easy is it to
rationalize your behavior by telling yourself that
"he didn't remind me"? You don't
want to fall into that pattern.
The main strategy that I would suggest, though, is
to be realistic. It's very easy to make goals
that can't be kept, or even that shouldn't be
kept--if your goal is to not miss a single day of
work next year and you come down with a bad cold, is
it worth the risk of infecting all of your
co-workers and getting even sicker yourself just to
meet a goal? Definitely not. Should your
goal be to start working as a welder if you have no
training at all in the field? On the other
hand, improving your cooking skills by attempting
one new dish a week is possible--and by the end of
the year, you'll have tried 52 new dishes, and that
experience really can't help but make you a better
Another fresh new year is here . . .
Another year to live!
To banish worry, doubt, and fear,
To love and laugh and give!
This bright new year is given me
To live each day with zest . . .
To daily grow and try to be
My highest and my best!
I have the opportunity
Once more to right some wrongs,
To pray for peace, to plant a tree,
And sing more joyful songs!
William Arthur Ward
important strategy of all, though, is this:
Once you've made your lists and set your goals, you
must keep in mind that life is a day-by-day process,
not a series of results. If your goal is to
become kinder and more compassionate, then you must
make an effort every day to be so. If your
goal is to be more forgiving, then you must focus
each day on forgiving people their trespasses and
letting go of your own resentments. One way to
do this is to write a set of goals for each day and
commit yourself to reviewing them each
morning. For example, you might write,
"Today I will be kind and generous and loving,
and I will write one page of my novel."
If you read this each morning to remind yourself of
what's important here and now today, then you'll
increase your chances of actually fulfilling the
Of course, the most important advice of all is to be
yourself, follow your dreams, and explore your
passions. At the new year, though, we tend to
take stock of just how little we've been doing these
things, and we try to promise ourselves that we'll
do them more next year--but we don't always come
through on those promises.
Our goal, then, is not just to set the goals for
ourselves, but to make sure that we follow through
on them; not just to make promises about our
futures, but to make decisions each day that will
help us to fulfill those promises all year long.
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We find by losing. We hold fast
We become something
ceasing to be something
old. This seems
to be close to the heart
that mystery. I know no more now
than I ever did
about the far side
death as the last
letting-go of all,
but now I know that
I do not need
to know, and that I do
to be afraid
of not knowing. God
knows. That is
all that matters.
Robert Paul Gilles
"let go" does not mean to stop caring.
It means I can't do it for someone else.
"let go" is not to cut myself off.
It's the realization that I can't control another.
"let go" is to admit powerlessness,
which means the
outcome is not in my hands.
"let go" is not to try to change or blame another.
It's to make the most of myself.
"let go" is not to care for, but to care about.
"let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.
"let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a
"let go" is not to be in the middle, arranging all the
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
"let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
"let go" is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead
to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
"let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
"let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live
for the future.
"let go" is to fear less and to love more.
(from his book Thoughts of the dreampoet : vol. 1.)
Life is short.
Each year passes more quickly than the previous one. It’s
deny yourself many of life’s simple
pleasures because you
to be practical. Forget about practical and decide instead to become
collector. Always be
on the lookout for gifts without ribbons.
strewing them across your path
His gifts come tagged with
a note: “Life can be wonderful.
best not to miss it!”
it is before
it isn’t anymore. . . . Dare to
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