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path of awakening is not about
who you are. Rather it is
unbecoming who you are not.
to appreciate your worth can, in some cases, dramatically improve
your circumstances by changing the choices you make and the
you take. And as you
begin to treat yourself with more respect,
other people begin to do the same, since we subconsciously
others how to treat us through messages we send through body
tone of voice, and other subtle cues and behaviors.
Discovering your innate
worth and living from that place allows you to make more
constructive choices--to choose the higher roads of life.
ourselves as a best friend is an important factor in the quality
of our current living and will be crucial in our last years.
It’s the only way
we can gain an intimate knowledge of who we are and what we need.
Being familiar with – and able to articulate – our wants and
needs gives us
some control of our lives, and is absolutely essential when we are
and may have to rely on others to do what we can no longer do for
we were withholding made us weak
Until we found it was ourselves.
I can think of myself as loved, I can love and accept others.
If I see myself as forgiven, I can be gracious toward others.
If I see myself as powerful, I can do what I know is right.
If I see myself as full, I can give myself freely to others.
I shall try to remember all this day that I am
divine creation with infinite possibilities.
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To set us on a clear path, it
is important to communicate well, at least
with ourselves. To know what we want, to know what we mean, and
to learn to
express ourselves clearly,
with as little confusion as possible.
If you are confused about yourself, you can expect
to be misunderstood
by those around you.
You have to set your mind straight,
and that is a task that no one else can undertake for you.
cannot fail at
yourself. A cat
to be a
tiger, and you shouldn't
try to be something
process, not a
what you are and to
create that creature.
still won't be
it is about
You are a
. . comes as the infallible result of great acceptances,
great humilities—of not trying to make ourselves this or that
conform to some dramatized version of ourselves), but of
ourselves to the fullness of life—of letting life
flow through us.
are a child of the universe, “fearfully and wonderfully made.” In
of creation, there has never been anyone like you. Accept this reality
that you are a special, unique human being who has a place on this
that no one else can fill. Acknowledge yourself as a glorious
your loving Creator. This healthy self-love will form the
of a joyful
and satisfying life. Then, as you love and accept
your inner light will
shine outward to bless and heal your fellow
all want recognition for our “specialness.”
But we should never take
our self-worth from our society, feedback from others, or our own
to others. Our
self-esteem should be based in the fact that God created us
with the utmost care and has called His creation good.
In His foresight
we are all made of “the right stuff.”
Our self-worth then comes from
how we use it, in service to our families and communities,
exercising our creative gifts, and becoming one with God.
may study with the highest teachers, but you will find no one but
You may travel the world over, yet find nothing but
reflected the world over.
So if you now find yourself in a cell, take heart
that of all the teachers in the world, out of all the places in
you still have with you the only ultimate ingredient of your
like a winner means not always having to defeat someone
else. It means being able to grow from a situation in which you
fail to reach
It involves not demanding perfection from yourself
single thing you do, but, instead, thinking of yourself as
perfect and thus
capable of growing.
It means reminding yourself that perfection
mean staying the same; it means being able to allow
yourself to grow. Thinking as a winner means not coming down on yourself; it
to allow self-repudiating thoughts into your head.
It involves pushing out
the inclination to evaluate yourself in comparison with
others, and giving
yourself permission to be the unique
person you are.
|In a world in which we are exposed to more
information, more options,
more philosophies, more perspectives than ever before, in which we
choose the values by which we will live (rather than
some tradition for no better reason than that our own parents
did), we need
to be willing to stand on our own judgment and trust our own
look at the world through our own eyes—to chart our course and
how to achieve the future we want, to commit ourselves to
questioning and learning—to be, in a word, self-responsible.
things we see,” Pistorius said softly, “are the same things
are within us.
That is why so many people live such unreal lives.
They take the images outside them for reality and never allow
the world within to assert itself.”
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morning take a few minutes to reflect on how
you give of
yourself to the world.
Often we get
caught up in the frenzy
of buying and giving things.
Look at the ways you give appreciation, friendship,
time, love, and affection, and give of your
own special talents
and abilities throughout the year. Acknowledge yourself for
having enriched the lives
Spend some time loving
for the giving light that you are.
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is no such thing as can’t, only won’t.
If you’re qualified, all it takes
is a burning desire to accomplish, to make
Go forward, go backward.
Whatever it takes!
But you can’t blame
other people or society in general.
It all comes from your mind.
When we do the impossible we
realize that we are special people.
It is never too late to be what
you might have
Try not to become a person of success but rather
try to become a person of value.
do not know when I have had happier times in my soul, than when
sitting at work, with nothing before me but a candle and
cloth, and hearing
no sound but that of my own breath, with
God in my soul and heaven
in my eye . . . .
I rejoice in being exactly
what I am,--a creature capable of
loving God, and who,
as long as God
lives, must be happy.
I get up and look for a while out the window,
and gaze at the moon and stars, the work of an Almighty hand.
of the grandeur
of the universe, and then sit down, and think
myself one of the
happiest beings in it.
Attributed to a poor 18th-century Methodist woman
to a point people’s lives are shaped by environment, heredity,
and movements and changes in the world about them; then there
comes a time when it lies within their grasp to shape the clay of
lives into the sort of thing they wish to be. . . . Everyone has
their power to say, this I am today, that I shall be tomorrow.
|As children of the Most High God we are to accept
the natural creation does—which simply is in great beauty,
those people who truly love and accept
themselves are rare. Why do we seek self-worth through social
recognition and acquisition, as though those were needed?
special children of God, the Creator of worlds without measure.
As such each one of us is intrinsically very, very worthy.
more you surrender to the fear of someone’s disapproval, the
more you lose face
in your own eyes, and the more desperate you become for
Within you is a void that should have been filled by self-esteem. When you
attempt to fill it with the approval of others instead, the void
grows deeper and
the hunger for acceptance and approval grows stronger.
The only solution is
to summon the courage to honor your own judgment,
frightening though that may be in the beginning.
the extent that we honor all aspects of ourselves, we remove
self-hate, horror, and terror from our lives.
As whole human beings we are
the creatures of the greatest complexity on this planet.
Respect for this
complexity includes our insisting on acceptance of the
inconsistent and incongruous.
spiritual kingdom lies all about us, enclosing us,
altogether within reach of our inner selves,
waiting for us to
God Himself is here awaiting
to His presence.
This eternal world will come
us the moment we begin to reckon upon its reality.
The gatha I often
take refuge in is, "Coming back to the island of
myself." When life seems like a turbulent ocean, we
remember we have an island of peace inside. Life has ups and
downs, coming and going, gain and loss. Dwelling in the
of self, you are safe.
Thich Nhat Hanh
How to Walk
|How I feel about and behave toward myself is the
basic determinant of
most of my behavior.
If I improve my self-regard, I will find that dozens
behaviors change automatically.
If, for example, I increase my feelings
I will probably be less defensive, less angered by
devastated if I do not get a raise, less anxious when I come
work, better able to make decisions, and more able
and praise other people.
is an Indian proverb or axiom that says that everyone is a house
with four rooms--a physical, a mental, an emotional, and a
Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time, but unless
we go into every room every day, even if only to keep
it aired, we are not a complete person.
must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.
little criticism makes me angry, and a little rejection makes me
A little praise raises my spirits, and a little success excites
me. It takes
very little to raise me up or thrust me down. Often I am
like a small boat
on the ocean, completely at the mercy of its waves. All the
time and energy
I spend in keeping some kind of balance and preventing myself from
tipped over and drowning shows my life is mostly a struggle for
not a holy struggle, but an anxious struggle resulting from
the mistaken idea that it is the world that defines me.
Henri J.M. Nouwen
the labels other people try to tag us with is one of the most
destructive things we can do to ourselves. Because once we
those labels, we allow them to define us--what we can do, what
we should want, what we can and can't have. We start
what others think is right for us instead of using our own
and self-knowledge to make our own best choices.
Over the years I have learned that we can't live genuinely until
we learn to disregard the labels and judgments of others. As
wise person once said, "You aren't what people call you, you
you answer to." The better we become at ignoring
call us, the closer we get to fulfilling our dreams, the easier it
becomes to create the life we really want,
not the life someone else thinks we should have.
political victory, a rise in rents, the recovery of your sick, or
return of your absent friend, or some other quite external
your spirits, and you think good days are
preparing for you.
believe it. It can never be so.
Nothing can bring you
peace but yourself.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Just trust yourself, then you will know how to
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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It is painful to face the self we know we have
never had the integrity to honor and assert.
In a moment of
deep inner silence, I heard a gentle voice whisper:
"Beloved, dare to make the break out of the lonely
crowd. There is a wonderful plan for your life.
A magnificent purpose resounds through your unfoldment.
Release and let go of your outdated and outworn self!
Dare to be reborn in the brilliance of the freedom of
Spirit, filled and motivated with universal energy flowing
direct from the heart of God."
Fascinated, I listened: "Beloved, dare to lose
old patterns of expression, old habits of weakness and
death, old memories of destruction. Dare to witness
the activity of divine love expressing through you as
perfect life as it restores, rejuvenates, and regenerates
every cell of your being! Live in the wholeness of
spirit, and direct your light essence for the healing and
uplifting of the world."
Wow! I wondered, do I dare? The voice
continued: "Beloved, go beyond your present
understanding. Exceed your now consciousness of
Truth. Be fully immersed in your divine blueprint
through all good. . . on earth as it is in heaven. You
carry within the keys to the kingdom. Use them to open
all doors of joyous expression and to direct the wonder and
effectiveness of the spiritual gifts you possess into your
In expectation, I remained silent, listening.
"Beloved, dedicate yourself to love. Watch as
love dissolves undesirable situations, unwanted
circumstances, and all thoughts and feelings of negative
nature. Dare to be magnificent! Dare to be a
self-renewing temple of the living God! Dare to be
beauty, harmony, light, and music as I created you to
be! Remember, I have loved you with an everlasting
Joy filled my heart as I asked: "Who are
you? Who is saying this to me?"
And from infinity within came the answer, "I am!"