is a goal that can make our lives much simpler, much more
fulfilling, and much less liable to give us unpleasant
surprises. But it's often difficult to be authentic
because of the pressure that we feel--real or imagined--to
be what we think other people want us to be.
Personally, I'm much less concerned about forgetting the
pose than I am about other people discovering that I am
posing, for that would let them know that I'm not the
person that I'm trying to make them believe that I am.
That's the main reason I don't pose, and I'm very glad
that I learned long ago not to do so. It makes my
life much easier only having to deal with whether people
accept me as I am or not, and not having to deal with any
fallout if they find out that I've been dishonest in the
ways that I present myself.
Some people would like to convince us that we need to put
on a different face in order to be accepted, that we need
to act certain ways in order to make other people like us
or want to work with us. If that's true, that would
mean that we have to spend most of our time literally
lying about who we are, about what we value, about what's
important to us.
Who are you? Do you let that reality shine through,
or do you try to hide it behind an inauthentic mask?
If the latter is the case, please remember that you were
put on this planet to be a completely unique individual,
not a copy of others that someone else thinks that you