have been plenty of times when I've really wanted
something--some thing, some relationship, some job.
And I've done everything I could to acquire it or make it
happen. Many times, I've failed to do so. And
as time goes on, I've started to see that that usually is
a good thing, that what I get instead definitely is the
best thing for me and for the other people in my life.
can be lucky not to get what we want, for if we get what
we think we want, there may be no space available in our
lives for what we truly want. I may have my heart
set on a particular car, but if I get it I won't be able
to get the car that's better and cheaper that I find a
week later. I may be interested in a certain job,
but if I take it then I won't be able to say yes to the
better job offer that comes along in a couple of months.
really does look out for us. If we trust it, then we
can let go of our wanting and needing, and we can allow
life to treat us well and bring to us those things that
are truly the best for us. Very often our wants are
influenced by others--friends, families, marketers,
advertisers--and we often want things that we hadn't
wanted until someone else brought them to our
attention. Once that happens, it can be very healthy
for us to say, instead of "I'm going to get that at
any cost," "If life knows that that's best for
me, then it will be a part of my life when it's best for
that to happen."
at your life and see the many wonderful things that are a
part of it. How many of those things did you
actually strive for, and how many of them somehow found
their ways into your life while you were striving for
something else that you ended up not getting? If
we're smart enough, we can see which is better for us.