The
energy of desire is a powerful motivator and creative
force. Yet our desires must be stated clearly with the
rewards of success in mind.
One of my recent clients had spent six years in a job
where he felt unappreciated. Although he had the skills
and experience to take other work, he was having trouble
leaving his current position. While expressing his
frustration, he kept saying, "I can't stand this
job!"
Desire and the energy it creates affect our intentions
and actions. However, it is important to
distinguish between desire motivation and fear
motivation. We are either moving toward something
we want, or, as my client was, away from something we do
not want.
Fear motivation aims to protect and focuses on penalties
for failure leading to feelings of inhibition (e.g.,
"I can't") or compulsion (e.g., "I have
to"). Desire motivation seeks rewards for
success. It leads to volition (e.g., "I can")
and propulsion (e.g., "I want to").
Not initially knowing where he would go next, my client
was moving "from" an undesired position,
mistakenly motivated by penalties for perceived
failure. Of course, he had not failed; his job had
failed him. The way we express our feelings will
shape our beliefs, intentions and actions, often without
our awareness.
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My client's initial affirmation, "I can't stand
this job," was working to keep him there. The
mind is unable to focus on the reverse of an idea.
It will delete a negative such as "can't" and
move directly to its dominant thought. What he had
actually affirmed with strong emotion was, "I stand
this job!"
Filled with energetic dislike for his job, he had not
only been affirming that he would continue to
"stand" his job. He had also intensified
his unwanted staying-power by mixing strong negative
emotion with his words.
He went on to identify the position and job he
wanted. Then he began to create statements
focusing on rewards for moving to a satisfying and
fulfilling position. Within two months, he had
acquired a satisfying position with a new company, and,
to his delight, an employer who regularly compliments
him on his work.
Clearly focus on your desires each day. Ask
yourself, "What do I want, exactly?"
"What am I moving toward?" Allow your
thoughts and words to move you toward your fondest
desires with faith in your God-given talents and
potential.
The deepest desires of your heart will produce the
energy to carry you forward to success. May the
rewards of every success that you desire be yours!
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Copyright Steve
Brunkhorst. All rights reserved. Visit Steve and read many more great
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