don't always work out for the best,
but we can make the best
out of the way things work out.
and scared are made up of the same letters. Simply
switch two of the letters around and you can flip from one
word to the other.
When we inject positive energy into situations we are
holding them in a 'sacred place.' When we invest
ourselves in worry we are holding things in a 'scared
place.' Whatever we focus upon becomes our reality.
I've heard that during the depression, the positive
thinking guru Napoleon Hill recommended to the President
that negative news be kept to a minimum and positive news
emphasized. A number of people recently have
suggested either injecting more positive news into our
media or starting a new media provider that emphasizes
positives would be a good idea.
Since most of us have no control over what is broadcast or
written, we have to do something else to handle the
barrage of negative news that we are confronted with on a
daily basis. In our own lives we can begin by
looking for and asking for positive information.
For example, instead of asking open-ended questions such
as "How are things going?" we can ask,
"What's the good news?" When we do this,
the other person has to stop and think of something
positive to say. When we ask ourselves this
question, we also have to stop and think of something
At the end of a long and tiring day, instead of rehashing
the frustrations we can choose to isolate and think about
one good thing that happened, even if it was only that
when we got to work someone had the coffee ready and it
was really good.
Early in my career, I was laid off from a job and didn't
find another one right away. I look back on that
time not as the highlight of my career but as time that I
used to do something else I enjoyed. I needed income
of course, so I took a job at night as a waitress. I
picked a restaurant that I could no longer afford to go
to, whose food I really enjoyed. I made just enough
to keep things together and got to eat at my favorite
place every night as well. During the day, I was
free to submit applications and go on interviews. I
also used part of the time to concentrate on my writing,
something I love to do but was often too tired after a
long workday to enjoy.
Even though this was not the lifestyle or permanent
employment that I envisioned for myself, I felt pretty
positive about it while I was experiencing it. I had
fun and served some very interesting people. I made
new friends among the other waitresses. Some of them
had been there for years, others were in transition like I
was. I learned more about multi-tasking in that job
than in any other one I've ever had.
Of course this made a big difference in the way I
interviewed for a new position in my field and my overall
attitude. Within a couple of months I was hired for
another position that I wound up enjoying a lot more than
the one I had lost.
We can rarely control what comes into our lives but we can
always choose what we do with it. I didn't
understand while all of this was happening that I was
choosing to hold my situation in a sacred place rather
than a scared place. Looking back now, I know that
it made all the difference.
"Fear knocked at the door.
There was no one there."
Have a Great Day and be good to yourself. You
Gail Pursell Elliott All Rights Reserved. Gail
Pursell Elliott, "The Dignity and Respect
Lady." Innovations "Training With a Can-Do
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