If you have done something in the
past which you can do something about, then by all means
take action. If you have been unkind to someone, offer
a sincere apology. If you failed to fulfill a promise
which you make, take steps immediately to fulfill that
If you insist on dwelling in the
past, I suggest that you focus on your past successes.
Visualizing and thinking about past successes is an
excellent way to build confidence and self-esteem.
What you think about is what you become. Therefore,
when you concentrate on your successes, you help to create
When you find yourself starting to
dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt and
remind yourself: "There is nothing I can do now
which will change what happened. I learned a valuable
lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next
time." You see, regardless of what you have
done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept
it and move forward. The successful individual does
not waste precious mental energy dwelling on past events
which cannot be changed. Instead, he or she uses past
mistakes as learning experiences and springboards to future
Keller is a motivational speaker and writer who founded
Attitude is Everything, Inc. Visit Jeff's website at http://www.attitudeiseverything.com.