adults, as we watched the terrible images on our television
screens we collectively went into shock and denial.
This is the first stage of grief. It lasted most of
We were so caught up in the numbness of it
all that most didn't really think about how these images and
our conversations about the images were affecting our
children. And when our children began to misbehave,
become agitated, or generally cranky we were impatient and
frustrated. We were in emotional turmoil and so were
Wednesday collectively we became angry. Anger is the
second stage of grief. If we are not careful during
the anger stage we will cause irreparable damage our
relationships with many Americans who are of Middle Eastern
origin. Irrationally pointing fingers at individuals
who had nothing to do with the events earlier this week
because of their ethnicity will only cause strife in
America. As parents during this very stressful time,
we must be careful of our words and actions. Children
learn what they see. We must be responsible enough
about our anger that we do not inadvertently sew the seeds
on hatred and intolerance.
anger will last a long time. It will come and go.
We will feel the sadness of the loss and we will again feel
the anger. As a nation, we just recently reconciled
the events in Oklahoma City and now we have to begin the
process anew. It will bring up the feelings of that
tragedy and of other personal wounds many Americans have had
in the past.
parents we will have to contend with agitated, distracted
children in the weeks to come. We will have to contend
with our children's fears in the months and years to come.
Our world has been forever changed by these events; and we
will parent differently because of these events.
(C) KellyAnn Bonnell.