is the most powerful thing that you can do for your
physiology and your spirituality, and it remains one of
the least attractive things to us, largely because our
egos rule so unequivocally. To forgive is somehow
associated with saying that it is all right, that we
accept the evil deed. But this is not forgiveness.
means that you fill yourself with love and you radiate
that love outward and refuse to hang onto the venom or
hatred that was engendered by the behaviors that caused
the wounds. Forgiveness is a spiritual act of love
for yourself and it sends a message to everyone, including
yourself, that you are an object of love and that that is
what you are going to impart.
is the process of unbonding from old wounds and no longer
hanging onto them as prized possessions. It means
letting go of the language of blame and self-pity and no
longer leading with one's wounds and injuries from the
past. It means privately forgiving and not asking
anyone else to understand. It means leaving behind
the eye-for-an-eye attitude that only makes for more pain
and the need for more revenge, and replacing it with an
attitude of love and forgiveness. The spiritual
literature available to us from all religious persuasions
honors this way.